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Originally Posted by At Arms Length
Off-topic: Where does inexperience fit into this? No one is good their first time, being what they say? Second time, third time, maybe more, before they figure out what they’re doing? I’ve read horror stories of women kicking guys out of their apartments basically pantsless because the guy admitted that it was about to be their first time, but I guess the women are justified in seeking the type of partner they want...and if a guy is inexperienced, that almost guarantees a poor time for the woman.
So does an inexperienced guy shut his mouth and try his best, and likely fail to meet expectations, or speak up and risk being punted for being inexperienced? What you’re describing sounds like a lot of intuition (“Attuned and responds accordingly, they can sense it”) when, frankly, that sounds like a whole new gameboard to be flipped over in front of me when I screw up, and that’s after I somehow magically learn the “right” moves to the first, dating, game.
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I thought you might want to hear from women first, but now that I think most of the women who might have wanted an opportunity to speak have spoken, the mechanics of sex are surprisingly easy to pick up. There are all kinds of sex manuals that explain the nuts and bolts of how sex works including various errogenous zones and things to try out. Your library will have a bunch of them.
For authors try Heather Corinna, she was the founder of scarleteen and her website is another resource.
https://www.scarleteen.com/
things she has written that I thought were very good.
https://www.amazon.com/X-second-All-...dp/0738218847/
https://www.amazon.com/Bodies-Oursel...dp/1439190666/
She comes first was excellent
https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-Fir...dp/0060538260/
As is
Come As You Are.
https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-...dp/1982165316/
As for how much to share, the truth of the matter is that I think most of the women who might agree to have sex with you, probably are going to figure out before sex you don't have much relationship experience and just decide that isn't very important to them in this situation because they are impressed about other factors. Women enter into relationships for all kinds of reasons, and for some women, the amount of previous sexual experience you have isn't very important. I am invited to the wedding of of a man who left the priesthood, because he wanted a wife and family. His bride is 37, he is 43. I am pretty sure that his wife is his first sex partner.
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