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So I discovered that the guy I am dating has a history of restraining orders. He didn't tell me - I found out via the local court records. Not sure what prompted the search, a gut feeling I guess? Within two years, 4 restraining orders were taken out against him by the same man who appears to be an ex colleague or something. His photo even came up online linking him to the restraining orders. The interesting thing is when I ask about his history (he is 40) he never mentions 2013-2016, when these incidents took place.
To be honest, I have noticed signs that he has bit of a quick temper/is quick to react, which I assumed was just a passionate personality.
At the same time, can it be that a restraining order is falsely instated?
What concerns me is that it was taken out 4 times, which I assume means that he kept intimidating this man.
I am disappointed as I actually really liked this guy, but my tolerance for aggression is super low.
I would not put up with a quick temper/quick reaction. That would have to be resolved before any kind of meaningful relationship developed because that reaction would make it difficult to ask about his past. A quick "hello" and "goodbye" is the most I would give that person.
I dont feel comfortable as I feel I would look like a snoop...also what if he becomes annoyed/angry?
I think I might worry more about what happens if you get really involved with this guy and it doesn’t work out. Is he going to stalk/intimidate you indefinitely afterward?
I think I might worry more about what happens if you get really involved with this guy and it doesn’t work out. Is he going to stalk/intimidate you indefinitely afterward?
I would go to a restaurant with him and ask him. Then leave.
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