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Not sure about " bitchx" but maybe teasing and a little entitled. The first is off-putting, the second fun and interesting.
It seems like men/people are interested in others by looks (including weight and body type preference), personality, interest in the bedroom.
One or two of these can have universal appeal but for some others they can be highly individual.
Observe a friend you think has success in this area. Analyze what she does/doesn't do. No need necessarily talk to her about it, just look and learn, like a tutorial in real life.
Continue your self-improvement routine as well, your determination is admirable.
I have a couple of dates coming up; I am thinking of taking one man as a test case and unleashing the b!@ch energy right away to see if I get a different response.[/QUOTE]
oh boy, I cannot wait to hear what you tell us afterwards
oh boy, I cannot wait to hear what you tell us afterwards
Yes; it's interesting that the OP is apparently seeking to act like the narcissists with whom she previously had relationships. That ought to provide some good results.
Honestly this sounds a bit to me like the female-spoken flip side to the argument that men often make, that women don't like nice guys, only jerks, and so they figure they've got to treat women badly in order to get laid. Which...in my opinion, has never really been a good look.
Are you just expressing frustration with how dating is going, and contemplating a change of tactics in the hopes that different behavior would equal success?
I am not a man, so I can’t speak for men. But this is absolutely 100% accurate for women. As many women have already commented in this post, as well as the link I posted - men do not like women who seem to “nice”. They find them boring, “easy”, they don’t pose enough of a challenge. Men value what they work hard to obtain. I can even look to some women in my own family or that I know personally who were unpleasant and nasty, never satisfied, nothing was ever good enough for them, but their husbands busted their butts trying to please them. Some to the point of illness (I don’t want to take it that far, that’s extreme and cruel). But yes, I do believe a change of tactics to have more of an “edge” would help me tremendously. I have a mild, milquetoast personality at baseline. I’m easygoing, flexible, always smiling, don’t really argue or push back. This is not serving me. I’m really regretful that I didn’t realize this when I was younger, when it would have been easier to change. I wasn’t aware, I thought being nice was the way to go. I don’t want to play a role and pretend, I want to change and adapt this into my personality.
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Continue your self-improvement routine as well, your determination is admirable.
Thank you. It’s beyond grueling. I had a good cry this morning, but I journaled some and I feel a tiny bit better. I am not giving up, and am determined to stick with this journey for the long haul until I get what I want. If I could just get the solutions I seek, I know I could make any necessary changes and have success. I am not afraid of hard work. I truly believe I am going to get the answers I need at some point.
Thank you to the people who actually answered the question as I requested and gave me some useful tips!
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Please, no negative or disagreeing comments, only answer the question please!
For women who are already like this - was this is something you developed, or were you always like this?
What are some good ******y techniques to get men to chase and pursue?
Also, any techniques to not feel bad or guilty for treating people slightly nasty? I want to get control over my emotions, be able to be cold without feeling bad, ruminating, or feeling guilty.
Thank you. It’s beyond grueling. I had a good cry this morning, but I journaled some and I feel a tiny bit better. I am not giving up, and am determined to stick with this journey for the long haul until I get what I want. If I could just get the solutions I seek, I know I could make any necessary changes and have success. I am not afraid of hard work. I truly believe I am going to get the answers I need at some point.
I am so sorry to hear. Please, please believe me it is not just you. Online dating is very frustrating. So frustrating, I have given up on it. Maybe you should take a break and try to go out more, join some social clubs. I hear from everyone that online dating is horrible. It can really be soul crushing and kill your self esteem. I have never been rejected so much in my life by guys who seemed to be all over me and then pouf, are gone. That's just how it is. Dating in 2021.
I’m pretty sure plenty of men responding found their women to be a “prize” and pursued their women heavily. And I’m sure plenty of women in that thread already know how to play the game - which is why they were pursued and are partnered up.
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And that he pursues me heavily and treats me like a princess. 
