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I agree. Long distance romantic relationships seldom work out.
Oh, the distance itself can be overcome. I'm the queen of making impossible things happen... Whether they'll work is entirely different can of worms, though... particularly if marriage is planned. Not spending enough time together and not living together beforehand are not exactly recipes for success.
I was online friends with my boyfriend for six months before we met. But it wasn't at all a romantic friendship, just platonic best friends. And neither of us were dating anyone else at the time either. He lived 1500 miles away from me.
What are your IMs and emails like with each other? He may only want a female confidant. But regardless if it is more, if I were you, I wouldn't push to meet him in person until one of you is willing to move geographically to be closer to one another. Once you meet in person and if you both really like each other, your relationship will then enter a very frustrating phase because you both will want to spent more time in person with each other. As long as you don't meet in person, being geographically apart is bearable.
So basically, my advice is don't meet until one of you is willing to move to the other's location. And in the meantime, just keep things the way they are.
i understand completely. if you truly love each other, and feel that you can trust him to the point of waiting, then it shouldn't be that hard. i love my scotty and i'm willing to wait as long as it takes to rejoice. if you don't feel a strong enough bond w/ him, it won't work out.
Oh, the distance itself can be overcome. I'm the queen of making impossible things happen... Whether they'll work is entirely different can of worms, though... particularly if marriage is planned. Not spending enough time together and not living together beforehand are not exactly recipes for success.
Just tossing in a comment. I agree that it is essential to spend time together to get to know each other better and make sure that the connection between the two extends far beyond the Internet. However, what I don't completely agree with is saying that not living together behorehand is not exactly a recipe for success. While I respect that is your opinion, just want to mention that the divorce statistics do not really prove this one way or the other from my understanding. In fact there are many that will say the opposite. But I don't have the actual statistics to post showing it to be one way or the other. Perhaps someone else may have or know where to find those statistics that are spoken of often.
I would follow your gut instinct, which is generally right on...you know, that little voice inside....doesn't sound right to me. Flags, yanno? Long distance relationships, sometimes become simply a boost to the ego for some.
If it's all up in the air, why wouldn't he want to meet you....I don't buy the job not affording him time off....
Just tossing in a comment. I agree that it is essential to spend time together to get to know each other better and make sure that the connection between the two extends far beyond the Internet. However, what I don't completely agree with is saying that not living together behorehand is not exactly a recipe for success. While I respect that is your opinion, just want to mention that the divorce statistics do not really prove this one way or the other from my understanding. In fact there are many that will say the opposite. But I don't have the actual statistics to post showing it to be one way or the other. Perhaps someone else may have or know where to find those statistics that are spoken of often.
I know about the statistics. You're correct. I was just speaking from my own experience, which is hardly the norm. I've never just lived with anybody and chances are good I will not.
I would follow your gut instinct, which is generally right on...you know, that little voice inside....doesn't sound right to me. Flags, yanno? Long distance relationships, sometimes become simply a boost to the ego for some.
If it's all up in the air, why wouldn't he want to meet you....I don't buy the job not affording him time off....
You are right on this. Only that this time the instinct sayes something and the heart other thing
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Whether they'll work is entirely different can of worms, though... particularly if marriage is planned. Not spending enough time together and not living together beforehand are not exactly recipes for success.
