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So that makes 3 divorcees in this thread praising the virtues of premarital sex...
And your point is? That being divorced is...indicative of lower female status? Part of a losers club?
Are you really so rigid that you can't see that there are OTHER things that make a marriage work, and not work? People will cheat...even when they marry a virgin. People can be abusive, even if both parties were virgins entering into the marriage.
I have a niece that is considering divorcing her husband. They were virgins (or at least, she was) when they got married. They've been married about 15 years.
Come to find out, he's controlling, and verbally abusive to my niece and their children. This is a couple who go to church every sunday, and her father is a pastor, and her mother (my sister) was a teacher in a Christian school for many years.
I don't see how being a virgin (or not) made this a better or worse marriage.
Well, everybody's getting all het up, but let's look at the story.
OP's known this "very good male friend" for "a couple months". Not what I'd call a "very good friend", not in that amount of time. And "slept with a couple times". Now she's all upset because he's acting like she was a convenient source of cheap thrills and she was hoping for something more.
If you want a guy to stick around and be more than just someone who swoops in, gets his jollies, and swoops out, you've probably got to do something different.
If OP wanted it to be one or two quickies, that's fine, it's her choice. But now she's realizing, from his non-communication, that "I thought we had something more, something SPECIAL..." and he didn't.
Happily married for over a decade. I was widowed from my previous marriage, we were together for 18 years, married 9? Something like that.
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