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We are both 40. Been together 6 years
She is very reserved in the bedroom.
She now admits that she had had a VERY wild past. She won't do ANYTHING beyond church friendly stuff with me...think biblical stuff. I'm frustrated because I want more. Her reasoning is that she was younger and drinking back then and not proud of it.
What to do? Fyi I'm not even looking for anything too wild, just basically normal things. I'd post more details but a mod deleted my previous post
Perhaps she wants to withhold sex and make you to commit, and marry her. It has been 6 years already and she isn't getting any younger.
Did you two talk about marriage?
It seems that you just want sex while she might want more stability and commitment.
If your sex life is lacking now, it is very unlikely to get better. If you're not happy with the way things are, it's time to end the relationship and look for someone sexually compatible who actually wants to have sex with you.
Seems you may have commitment issues perhaps? But...then again, people dont have to get married at all, but I suspect that since she has "got" religion, you better realise you are fighting something much much bigger than you are. The Church, the priest, the congregation, her mates (all same church?), the Bible.
If it was me, I would sit down together, lay it on the line and really have a good talk about it. After 6 years you should be able to talk to each other honestly without embarrassment. If you cannot, then...why not after all this time. As others have said, things do not often get better AFTER marriage.
If she feels really strongly, then maybe the time has come to move on. Some people are going to be incompatible or are going to become incompatible with you. It this issue is an important part of your relationship, then you need to decide just HOW important it is.
Is she actually religious are you just using terms of religion for reference?
Sometimes people have a wild past then feel shame and change to live by a set of rules. If you don't like her change then you probably aren't compatible.
Her reasoning is that she was younger and drinking back then and not proud of it.
Try to convince her that no matter how fun some of those wilder things were to do when she was drunk, they'll be even more fun when she's sober. She can try some of those activities again for the very first time.
If she doesn't buy it, then you have to decide if you two are sexually compatible or not.
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