Romance scam or I wronged my girlfriend (Asian, woman, love)
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She's getting a bone marrow transplant in two weeks?
So she is already hospitalized and/or isolated, right? Seeing as they have to kill her existing marrow (leaving her with no immune system) to make room for the new marrow and carefully manage her health before day 0. Does she have a donor or is it autologous? And how many weeks will she be hospitalized post-transplant?
I don't believe a word of OP's story. He holds down 3 jobs yet has time for a couple of trips a year to Mexico to see her and pays 10,000 GBP for her mother's surgery. GF sends him a fake photo of her hand from the hospital, suddenly needs a bone marrow transplant, if OP doesn't come up with more funds, her male friend will loan her the money and if it's not paid back in 6 months, she'll marry him. Meanwhile this sick dying GF is dangling the idea of her becoming an escort to pay for said surgery herself. So she goes from being a virgin to being an escort?
Yeah, right. Not buying it OP - try again.
There's no need to be smug and act like you know it all.
I have 3 jobs, no rule stating I'm not entitled to annual leave. 2 of those jobs are classed as zero hour contract so I can simply put myself down as not available during the time I'm away.
What's wrong with paying for my girlfriend's mother's surgery? If someone you know said they are dying and need your help, you're going to say "try again" and just walk away laughing? What happens if it's the truth, you won't regret it or you are going to cut ties with said person so you don't ever find out?
You say she goes from being a virgin to escort like it's fiction. If you are female, you need money to survive, where do you think that money is going to come from? Not many jobs out there someone with not that many qualifications and experience can get and pays that much.
She's getting a bone marrow transplant in two weeks?
So she is already hospitalized and/or isolated, right? Seeing as they have to kill her existing marrow (leaving her with no immune system) to make room for the new marrow and carefully manage her health before day 0. Does she have a donor or is it autologous? And how many weeks will she be hospitalized post-transplant?
All that and a fake pic? Nope, no good.
She said she's going to the hospital once a week for blood transfusion right now, and in two weeks time she's having her surgery and then will stay there in an isolation room being monitored. The blood tranfusion just comes from general donors, the bone marrow donor is her uncle because he's compatible. I'm not sure how long she's going to be hospitalised, according to the internet 2-4 weeks. is the high risk period after surgery because it takes time after the transplant before the bone marrow is properly grafted onto the bone.
I honestly have my doubts, I plan to be there to show support and check she's really in the hospital. If she is there then I like people on this forum have wronged her. If she's not there then I'm a fool.
Agreed regarding the money. It's not whether or not the O.P. is wealthy--it's about whether or not funds keep rolling her way. The whole thing with the other man is suspicious as all get out. That's a tale straight out of some telenovela right there. Damsel in distress, evil villain...enter the hero from overseas!
I also have a hunch that which hospital she is at will mysteriously changeor she'll otherwise find a way to keep the O.P. away from the building. Perhaps a miracle healing?
If this happens then I'll know for definite I have been played.
I need proof without sounding like I don't trust her, wording it to I want to be there to show support at least doesn't make it sound like I'm interrogating her and gives me room to back out if she's really ill.
She said she's going to the hospital once a week for blood transfusion right now, and in two weeks time she's having her surgery and then will stay there in an isolation room being monitored. The blood tranfusion just comes from general donors, the bone marrow donor is her uncle because he's compatible. I'm not sure how long she's going to be hospitalised, according to the internet 2-4 weeks. is the high risk period after surgery because it takes time after the transplant before the bone marrow is properly grafted onto the bone.
I honestly have my doubts, I plan to be there to show support and check she's really in the hospital. If she is there then I like people on this forum have wronged her. If she's not there then I'm a fool.
I hope we are all wrong, but there are a lot of questions here. If she isn't hospitalized prior to the transplant, then she's not getting a transplant. Also, transplants are not surgical but rather via IV/catheter.
Maybe you should google some more. 2-4 weeks is MINIMUM for engraftment, with outpatient needs for months thereafter.
ETA: regardless, do not cut yourself. Most of us have been parted from our money for reasons we later regret (or not)... it's just part of life.
There's no need to be smug and act like you know it all.
I have 3 jobs, no rule stating I'm not entitled to annual leave. 2 of those jobs are classed as zero hour contract so I can simply put myself down as not available during the time I'm away.
What's wrong with paying for my girlfriend's mother's surgery? If someone you know said they are dying and need your help, you're going to say "try again" and just walk away laughing? What happens if it's the truth, you won't regret it or you are going to cut ties with said person so you don't ever find out?
You say she goes from being a virgin to escort like it's fiction. If you are female, you need money to survive, where do you think that money is going to come from? Not many jobs out there someone with not that many qualifications and experience can get and pays that much.
Well, you made your decision - you WANT to pay for her, her mother and maybe even for more relatives that might start to appear whining about their financial hardships.
Go ahead - it's your money.
So, why are you asking for advice?
You should be there, in the hospital with her and her family, holding her hand and also giving emotional support. Right now she needs that too.
There's no need to be smug and act like you know it all.
I have 3 jobs, no rule stating I'm not entitled to annual leave. 2 of those jobs are classed as zero hour contract so I can simply put myself down as not available during the time I'm away.
What's wrong with paying for my girlfriend's mother's surgery? If someone you know said they are dying and need your help, you're going to say "try again" and just walk away laughing? What happens if it's the truth, you won't regret it or you are going to cut ties with said person so you don't ever find out?
You say she goes from being a virgin to escort like it's fiction. If you are female, you need money to survive, where do you think that money is going to come from? Not many jobs out there someone with not that many qualifications and experience can get and pays that much.
I didn't realize my reply was smug and know it all; I was basically summarizing your posts, which to me sounded incredulous. OK, so let's say it's all true. Your gut seems to be telling you there's a distinct possibility you're being scammed - listen to your gut and stop shelling out money to her and her family. Are you their main source of funds? That's quite a burden to carry.
Re the bolded.... I am female and have been broke in my earlier days and never, ever have I entertained the thought of becoming an escort. But that's just me. If your friend is lacking skills and experience as you say, then maybe while she's lying in isolation after her bone marrow transplant, she can give some thought to improving herself and being more marketable without being an escort.
There's no need to be smug and act like you know it all.
I have 3 jobs, no rule stating I'm not entitled to annual leave. 2 of those jobs are classed as zero hour contract so I can simply put myself down as not available during the time I'm away.
What's wrong with paying for my girlfriend's mother's surgery? If someone you know said they are dying and need your help, you're going to say "try again" and just walk away laughing? What happens if it's the truth, you won't regret it or you are going to cut ties with said person so you don't ever find out?
You say she goes from being a virgin to escort like it's fiction. If you are female, you need money to survive, where do you think that money is going to come from? Not many jobs out there someone with not that many qualifications and experience can get and pays that much.
A normal individual would NOT consider becoming a hooker especially if they are a virgin simply because they need $$$. This sounds like a seasoned pro who is playing you and multiple others for suckers. Surely you can't be this gullible.
I need proof without sounding like I don't trust her, wording it to I want to be there to show support at least doesn't make it sound like I'm interrogating her and gives me room to back out if she's really ill.
No, don't make it sound you don't believe her. You are CONCERNED about her health, that's why you are asking her all the questions. And yes, fly there asap to SUPPORT her and help her because she is ill and fragile. Not because you need proof
Do NOT give her any money until you have 100% proof that she really is ill. You need to see it with your own eyes, not some pictures she is sending.
Don't tell her when you are coming. Just get the name of the supposed hospital and show up there during the timeframe she says she is there.
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