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Originally Posted by bu2
Shy or introverted isn't the issue. Often an extrovert and introvert complement each other. An entertainer and a good listener can be a good match. Maybe that's why you have connected with those types.
I think your issue is the "strong" personality. Some people don't like conflict, especially introverts. Not liking conflict does not mean "passive-aggressive." You sound kind of like a good friend of mine. I always felt she needed someone who would "go toe to toe" as opposed to someone she would roll over.
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Yes, I agree. I think it's someone that can handle me and go toe to toe. When people meet me, I am very sweet, warm, welcoming, patient and I continue like that. However, if you disappoint me or frustrate me I am very direct. I will tell you "you have disappointed me because of x,y,z" or I will tell you "I don't trust you based on your previous behavior." I am very direct in that way. Not to be mean, not start conflict, not to hurt the other person, but in order to move a relationship forward (this goes beyond romantic) people need to be transparent on how they feel. And I definitely pick and choose my battles, but when I choose my battle, I am not as sweet and warm as people think (or at least I come off that way).
And for the record, I don't yell and I don't insult, my words can just be very sharp and I get very firm and lay boundaries right away and make sure to communicate to the person the boundaries they need to respect. A lot of guys have not been able to handle that. They get scared of me.