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I don't think either men OR women have it more difficult than the other. A man faces the possibility of asking a woman on a date, and being turned down. A woman faces the possibility of NOT being asked on a date at all.
Some seem to believe that if a woman is somewhat attractive, she'll get tons of dates...which isn't necessarily true. An attractive woman can very easily sit home on a Friday night, simply because the men who asked her out had the 'bottom line' of sex.
Having NO options isn't any better than having all the WRONG options. Asking someone for a date and being turned down isn't any better or worse than not being asked at all.
Asking for a date and being turned down = no date.
NOT being asked for a date at all = no date.
The result is the same in both cases. Rejection. Whether you're asking people on dates and being told 'no', or you're not being asked on dates at all, STINGS, like a thousand bees plunging their stinger into your gut, all at the same time.
Both men and women face hardships when it comes to dating. The obstacles aren't better or worse than the other sex.
They're just different.
If anyone want to test this — make an OLD profile of what you consider an average looking woman and one for what you consider an average looking man. Give them both similar sounding bios for their genders. Now sit back and observe the amount of messages the female profile gets compared to the male profile…without ever sending out a single message.
Not all men are going to approach a woman like a rabid dog needing sex so if she’s alone on a Friday night it’s probably not due to lack of options.
I don't think either men OR women have it more difficult than the other. A man faces the possibility of asking a woman on a date, and being turned down. A woman faces the possibility of NOT being asked on a date at all.
Some seem to believe that if a woman is somewhat attractive, she'll get tons of dates...which isn't necessarily true. An attractive woman can very easily sit home on a Friday night, simply because the men who asked her out had the 'bottom line' of sex.
Having NO options isn't any better than having all the WRONG options. Asking someone for a date and being turned down isn't any better or worse than not being asked at all.
Asking for a date and being turned down = no date.
NOT being asked for a date at all = no date.
The result is the same in both cases. Rejection. Whether you're asking people on dates and being told 'no', or you're not being asked on dates at all, STINGS, like a thousand bees plunging their stinger into your gut, all at the same time.
Both men and women face hardships when it comes to dating. The obstacles aren't better or worse than the other sex.
They're just different.
OR... she may be alone because there are guys who will not 'approach' her because - more likely than not - she will say no OR there are guys who do *not* want anyone who is overly 'conventionally attractive'.
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Originally Posted by Master Jay
Taggerung, dating was more fun in the 90s. Then again, this was BEFORE the age of computers.
I'm divorced. But in the early 90s, I had to WALK UP to her (my future ex-wife LOL) and introduce myself, invite her to shoot a game of pool with me in the college rec area, actually TALK with EYE CONTACT, and ask for a number (that I was going to CALL her; not text!).
People were REAL then. SOCIAL.
and yada yadda yadda, We all know how society ended up because HERE we are!
Ex-wife? That ain’t the selling point you think it is.
I think it's very difficult for an average looking woman or a woman with some minor physical flaws to meet someone today because so much emphasis is placed on physical appearance.
It always has been. That's nothing new.
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Originally Posted by smt1111;
Men on dating sites are primarily selecting women by their looks.
Most men have always selected women by their looks. Nothing new there, either.
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Originally Posted by smt1111;
Women on dating sites who are super cute and hot with well-endowed breasts probably get more offers than average women.
They always have.
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Originally Posted by smt1111;
Average women are swiped past.
Men today see so many gorgeous hot women all over the internet and on porn sites that they get used to seeing this standard of beauty and this becomes the standard of what they want. The internet and dating sites weren't available in the past. I think men were less picky about appearance.
Before dating sites and online porn, there was TV, Marilyn Monroe (etc.) and magazine porn (Playboy, etc.) I don't know if men's standard of beauty was different before TV and magazine porn, both of which came along in the 50's. Or maybe nothing's changed; maybe all eras are like today, where there were always men and women who had deeper value systems and looked for good character in a partner, along with plenty of others who reacted strongly to superficial qualities.
It always has been. That's nothing new. Most men have always selected women by their looks. Nothing new there, either. They always have. Before dating sites and online porn, there was TV, Marilyn Monroe (etc.) and magazine porn (Playboy, etc.) I don't know if men's standard of beauty was different before TV and magazine porn, both of which came along in the 50's. Or maybe nothing's changed; maybe all eras are like today, where there were always men and women who had deeper value systems and looked for good character in a partner, along with plenty of others who reacted strongly to superficial qualities.
yes, 100% agree
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