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I find it to be mostly accurate. My first 'serious' boyfriend, we argued over nothing burgers. We fussed a lot. Broke up, got back together, and broke up again. I suppose he's out there somewhere, and I wish nothing but good things for him. He was a learning experience. Truly not a bad guy, but not the right guy either.
My first husband was my second love, and went into that relationship naively on so many levels. The ending was hard and painful.
My second husband is my 3rd love, and I find the explanation to be pretty much on point. I have often had him make a comment that little did he know, filled a little chip in my heart, or repaired a crack in my soul...and he didn't even know. Indeed...I didn't know about the crack or the chip until he fixed it.
Curious, is your third love not your typical physical "type"?
Somewhat but not radically different. She's Latina and many - especially around here - are a bit voluptuous and on the short side (my 'type') but she is not as 'curvy'. She's also about 2-3 inches taller than me.
Sort of, but my first and second love was the same girl. Third is my wife.
First - high school, lost our virginity to one another, broke up when she moved (local, but another high school) the summer before our senior year.
Second - dated the same girl again for 2 yrs in college after we reconnected. She left me for another guy out of the blue and I was hurt for a while. There were some lies, too (I think she cheated, not sure, etc. etc.)
Third - wife - knew her as a friend and we hung in the same circles for years before I asked her out, (there's more to the story but that's the quick version) and here we are two decades later.
I dated plenty of other women in between those, but none at that level (these three were my only relationships that lasted over 18 mos).
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It is very accurate for me, except that I had a few (not just one) in the "first love" category of my youth.
I don't believe in hindsight that the love was not real then, but at the time I thought I would always feel the same way about those individuals, and many years later I can't say that I still do. I do still feel warm about the memories, but we have gone in such utterly different directions over the years that I could never love the people that they are today in the way that I loved them as they were, then.
But #2 and #3 could have been written spot on about my first and second marriages.
Not accurate for me. In fact, this idea seems like a load of superstition and magical thinking. I mean... there are two people involved, right? What if you are his third but he is your first? Someone didn't think this little axiom through.
Saw this post in my newsfeed and was curious what you guys thinks of it, or how accurate it is:
We fall in love with 3 people in our lifetime. Each one for a specific reason:
First Love:
This love often happens at a young age. You eventually grow apart or call it quits over silly things. When you get older you may look back and think it wasn't love. But the truth is, it was. It was love for what you knew love to be.
Second Love:
The hard one. You get hurt in this one. This love teaches us lesson and makes us stronger. This love includes great pain, lies, betrayal, abuse, drama and damage. But this is the one where we grow. We realize what we love about love and what we don't love about love.
Now we know the difference between good and bad humans. Now we become closed, careful, cautious and considerate. We know exactly what want and don't want.
Third Love:
This one comes blindly. No warning. It creeps on you silently. You don't go looking for this love. It comes to you.
You can put any wall you want, it will be broke down. You'll find yourself caring about that person without trying. They look nothing like your usual types but you get lost their eyes daily. You see beauty in their imperfections. You hide nothing from them. You want marriage and family with them. You thank the universe for them. You truly love them.
For me personally, I've had the first love (and find the description accurate), and the second (although not sure it was as abusive as this post makes it sound). Still waiting for the third (or looking rather lol). Also think people might have more than one "second love" and often we may mistake the second love for the third lol.
No it doesn't seem accurate to me I had a first love and looking back on it it was definitely love. We didn't end it over silly things we ended it over compatibility issues. Those are quite serious. And I'm with my second love now and this one is eternal.
I don't doubt this is a common experience but you are asking me if I thought it was common.
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