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We’ve been together for 10 years(married for 9) and our son is 7. He’s not a bad kid but he has adhd and he can be a handful most of the time, I’m a stay at home mom so he’s pretty much 100% my responsibility which I’m fine with. He is very loud though he laughs loudly, cries loudly when he’s upset and he’s prone to tantrums(I’m working on this and I’ve found a doctor to help, we’re just waiting for the appointment)
My husband has never been a super involved dad but he’s always been an okay dad, which is fine by me. But he’s started a new job recently that can be stressful at times but he’s earning 3 times what he was before and has more time off so it evens out.
Anyway, he announced to me a few days ago that he wants to leave me because he can’t take being around our son anymore. Since he’s home more now he hears him making the usually kid noises and he can’t tolerate it at all, he says I need to just find another man or he’ll just quit his job and work at a retail store because he can’t handle coming home from a difficult job and having noise in the house.
I don’t know what to do, I feel so lost. I never got the opportunity to go to college to it’s would be difficult to support our child on my own and it just feels so unfair that because he’s annoyed by him I’m expected to do it all on my own. Does anyone have any advice on how I can fix this or at least some way to try? He refuses to go to any sort of counseling because he doesn’t see what he’s doing as a problem. Any advice is welcome
We’ve been together for 10 years(married for 9) and our son is 7. He’s not a bad kid but he has adhd and he can be a handful most of the time, I’m a stay at home mom so he’s pretty much 100% my responsibility which I’m fine with. He is very loud though he laughs loudly, cries loudly when he’s upset and he’s prone to tantrums(I’m working on this and I’ve found a doctor to help, we’re just waiting for the appointment)
My husband has never been a super involved dad but he’s always been an okay dad, which is fine by me. But he’s started a new job recently that can be stressful at times but he’s earning 3 times what he was before and has more time off so it evens out.
Anyway, he announced to me a few days ago that he wants to leave me because he can’t take being around our son anymore. Since he’s home more now he hears him making the usually kid noises and he can’t tolerate it at all, he says I need to just find another man or he’ll just quit his job and work at a retail store because he can’t handle coming home from a difficult job and having noise in the house.
I don’t know what to do, I feel so lost. I never got the opportunity to go to college to it’s would be difficult to support our child on my own and it just feels so unfair that because he’s annoyed by him I’m expected to do it all on my own. Does anyone have any advice on how I can fix this or at least some way to try? He refuses to go to any sort of counseling because he doesn’t see what he’s doing as a problem. Any advice is welcome
Find a good marriage counselor. And maybe if your son truly is ADHD and give him some coffee it'll calm him right now it's counterintuitive I know but part of ADHD is stimulants have the opposite effect on them.
Tell him to go ahead and leave, and file for divorce. Ask for as much as you can get in child support.
I know that’s probably the right answer but I’m honestly scared to be alone, I feel like I’ll never find someone else. It seems like every guy wants an instagram model not just an average looking woman.
Wow what a jerk. If you want to salvage this, maybe he can try renting an office to work out of instead of being at home and hearing the kid when he's trying to work. If.
Find a good marriage counselor. And maybe if your son truly is ADHD and give him some coffee it'll calm him right now it's counterintuitive I know but part of ADHD is stimulants have the opposite effect on them.
I found a few but he refuses to go. My son won’t touch coffee, he’s on omega 3 supplements which help(they take him from 10/10 to 7/10 energy wise).
I know that’s probably the right answer but I’m honestly scared to be alone, I feel like I’ll never find someone else. It seems like every guy wants an instagram model not just an average looking woman.
I know that’s probably the right answer but I’m honestly scared to be alone, I feel like I’ll never find someone else. It seems like every guy wants an instagram model not just an average looking woman.
I would say don't be afraid of being alone first. Also muskies don't want an Instagram model if the guys you meet do and you're not that then you're meeting the wrong guys.
If you want to try and salvage the marriage the previous post I made is probably the only way you're going to do it.
Wow what a jerk. If you want to salvage this, maybe he can try renting an office to work out of instead of being at home and hearing the kid when he's trying to work. If.
He doesn’t work from home, he’s gone from 10 hours a day 5 days a week to 12 hours a day 3 times a week so he’s still away from him for a large portion of time.
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