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When the lioness sets out to find a meal, she doesn't make complex plans - she uses her natural talents. Since a Taoist seeks to emulate nature, the latter is far more preferable.
This reminds me of something I'll elaborate more on later.
As a child of divorce, I have to admit I'm familiar with this behavior. My father left so I think men will leave. Sometimes we test the waters. If he leaves, then it reinforces our belief. This is immature behavior BTW. Women should outgrow it.
Don't they know that if you harass and treat somebody like dirt it is going to backfire? A person like me will get ticked off and deeply injured and I'm not afraid to reject the person and make them feel ashamed nor am I afraid to guilt trip somebody who does that to me...
I've been rejected before and dealing with somebody who harasses and pesters me is a sure fire way of making me feel damaged and rejected...
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Fear of rejection. Having been rejected before.
As a child of divorce, I have to admit I'm familiar with this behavior. My father left so I think men will leave. Sometimes we test the waters. If he leaves, then it reinforces our belief. This is immature behavior BTW. Women should outgrow it.
That is the opposite of me. I can't stand "intensity". I seriously get physically ill, nauseous, depressed, hurt.etc. I like peace and harmony.
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Addictive relationships are relationships that mistake intensity for romance and love. You have somebody fearing abandonment chasing someone fearing engulfment, the one thing that is going to come out of that is intensity.
In addictive relationships you have the controller and the pleaser. The controller is the addict the pleaser is the love addict. The controller is the one who says: sit down and shut up. The pleaser is really a manipulator who gets people to sit down and shut up without telling them, which drives the addict insane. It drives the addict crazy. It also helps to create intensity, which is what everybody is after, because nobody wants to face the reality of who you are and who they are. And nobody wants to act like an adult.
So, women are mean to men they date and then there is the whole "women prefer the bad guys" thing. So, doesn't this mean that women are usually mean to bad guys, cuz the good guys don't get dates? Ahh, see how solid my logic is there? Solid, I tell ya! lol
Rats, can't finish my thoughts, cuz the baby's awake. Till next time!
So, women are mean to men they date and then there is the whole "women prefer the bad guys" thing. So, doesn't this mean that women are usually mean to bad guys, cuz the good guys don't get dates? Ahh, see how solid my logic is there? Solid, I tell ya! lol
Rats, can't finish my thoughts, cuz the baby's awake. Till next time!
Don't they know that if you harass and treat somebody like dirt it is going to backfire? A person like me will get ticked off and deeply injured and I'm not afraid to reject the person and make them feel ashamed nor am I afraid to guilt trip somebody who does that to me...
I've been rejected before and dealing with somebody who harasses and pesters me is a sure fire way of making me feel damaged and rejected...
I think it has to do with psychological damage. If you'll take us at our worst then I guess you'll stick around when we're at our best???
I know I did my share of pushing guys away when I was younger. My dad left. Why wouldn't I expect them to leave? They all did except for the one I married. If he could take me at my worst, I knew he could take me at my best.
I know, doesn't make sense but I don't think we make much sense when we're young. Everything is emotions and we respond to ghosts from our past.
No kiddin'! Somebody may believe ya, but it ain't gonna be me... Sorry.
I wouldn't be surprised if you sincerely think so, though.
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Ahh, see how solid my logic is there? Solid, I tell ya! lol
Sorry.