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We have 6 horses and a donkey. I have my own horse, my husband has his own and our twin toddlers each have a horse to call their own. Our two older horses retired and are just living out their remaining years as is our rescue donkey. I see another horse in our future for when our infant daughter is old enough to ride.
I don't think "horsey" ladies are necessarily to be avoided, but, a guy who has not been around horses much needs to simply understand what all he's getting involved with. Not quite like marrying into the Mob, but, yeah, if you get serious with a horse gal you will need to learn some things. Which ain't necessarily bad.
Although, yeah, a metrosexual downtown kind of guy needs to steer clear, unless he wants to make a clean break with his urbanista lifestyle. Which IMHO would not necessarily be a mistake.
No, horse women are not to be avoided, but the man must understand that the woman is involved with a creature that is much more than a cat or dog or parakeet. It takes more to support, in time and money, so the horse woman is more invested in her horse, than perhaps a cat or dog owner. Cat and dog food is available at Wal-Mart in easy-to-carry packaging; for a horse, hundreds of pounds of feed and hay must be sourced elsewhere, and don't forget the water. And plenty of room to roam and graze and play.
My ex loved horses, and learned English on her horse. My experience was Western, which my horse was used to. Still, she and I got along. My ex and I, that is; my mare and I got along just fine always.
There is the casual horse person and then there are the serious horse people.
For the casual horse person, owning and riding horses is more of a hobby. They may pay a fee to have them boarded and cared for by others instead of doing it themselves. Sometimes these horses are more like pets and used for occasional pleasure rides.
Serious horse people usually own horses that are used for breeding, showing, racing, and other competitions. They usually work on or own the farm on which their horses are boarded.
Serious horse people live and breathe this way of life. It's not just a hobby - it's a way of life. They're constantly working with the horses - training them, caring for them, etc. When they aren't training or caring for them, they're going to shows and competitions which happens on weekends and requires traveling most of the time.
While serious horse people are not to be avoided, anyone outside of the horse community who wants to date a serious horse person will also need to adopt this way of life - maybe not full-time but at least part-time.
I think the idea is to educate men about women who are serious horse people. That it IS a lifestyle. A lot of men are not interested in such lifestyle, therefore avoid. If the man isn't really into horses as well he's not going to be fulfilled in that relationship.
There is also some weird kind of jealousy or resentment some men have toward a woman living a lifestyle surrounding a beautiful powerful animal, and the woman's ability to train and control the animal. The men feel inferior or something.
If a woman can afford to keep horses without sacrificing everything else, then she’d probably be a great catch because it’s not a lifestyle for weaklings. If she runs herself into the poorhouse just to keep them alive, you might want to stay away. They’re addicting and terribly expensive. They’re definitely a luxury.
I know a few horsewomen who have careers that allow them to pay for food, shelter, vet bills, farriers, and equipment. Their free time is spent on their horses. They can’t take long vacations without a network of associates to help. However, the right person would find it a complimentary lifestyle if he/she is an outdoorsman/woman.
I also know women who are so tied down by their horses that it makes me want to cry. Really pitiful. They probably need a good partner and a huge influx of cash to get out of the hole.
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