Why does she always call me? (woman, cheat, kids, attractive)
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I’ll try to keep this somewhat short. I worked at the same company with a girl for about 2 years. We had home offices so I’ve only seen her in person 4 times at different work events. We exchanged numbers when she 1st started in case she had any questions about the job, her accounts, etc. When we met I thought she was attractive but found out she had a b/f and 2 kids. At first she just called to ask me a few questions then she started calling me more and more. We had quite a lot of free time so she would call sometimes a few times a day. We just talked, getting to know each other, joking around etc.
After awhile she told me that she’s miserable and her b/f is miserable and they basically sleep in different rooms. I live about an hour from her and she would say maybe every month or two that when you’re in the area we should meet up for dinner and drinks. I kind of blew her off because she has a b/f.
About a year ago she found a new job and started calling me even more. She said I bet you didn’t
think you would hear from me much now. I said I wasn’t sure. The b/f knew we were work colleagues and talked but I’m sure he doesn’t know we talk as much as we do. She takes the dog for a walk and calls me, goes to pick up her son from school and calls me. Of course she only calls me during the week and she isn’t much of a texter. She got a promotion at her job so she doesn’t call me quite as much but I still would say she calls a couple days a week, sometimes a couple times a day. It’s usually anywhere for, a 5-30 min call. We are mostly just joking around on the phone and I enjoy talking to her. I did meet her out for drinks about 9 months ago and it was fine. It just seemed like one of our phone calls but in person.
She doesn’t talk much at all about the b/f unless I ask and just calls him a AHole. She said it sucks because he lost his job. He was paying the mortgage on the house and she was paying tuition for the kids school. She claims she has a secret stash of money in case she needs to “escape” but that she couldn’t afford the kid’s tuition and an apartment right now. Once she said we should just movein together but it’s hard to tell when she’s joking or not. About 6 months ago she said her friend told her she should find a guy who understands her situation and start seeing the guy. I’m not sure if she was just telling me what her friend said or if she was trying to hint something to me.
Do girls call guys all the time they just want to be friends with? I’ve had girls who I’ve been just friends with but we never talked that much. I can usually tell if a girl is flirting with me but I can’t tell in this situation. I know we’re good friends but not sure if she wants more on her end. A friend of mine said if she does like you she probably won’t just come out and say it
Uh, yeah. She doesn't want to deal with leaving the bf unless she has a crutch. You are the crutch she as her eyes on. As for her character...she is not being honest with her bf. She's having an emotional affair with you and seems ready to make it a physical one as well. Would you want to be involved with someone like that? Do you want to be helping her bring up her kids? She has told you in every way possible without coming right out and saying it that she wants to be more than friends. Can't you do better?
If I were you, I’d cut way down on the communication, until she’s been free of the bf and on her own for at least a year. As others have said, it sounds like she has a need to line up a new man before she gets rid of this one. Don’t be that guy.
You are her convenient and free therapist, at her beck and call so she can vent all of her life's ills to you.
Does this sound like a woman that is genuinely interested in you as a romantic partner?
Nothing she said or did indicates any romantic interests or physical attraction to me. Of course some will disagree and then try to plant in your mind that this woman has 'feelings' for you.
Are you interested in having a relationship or affair with her? Would you like her to stay with the bf but have a fling with you? You can't count on her being willing to keep it at that. But if you like drama - you know what to do.
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