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who the heck are you calling demanding. I'm trying to help you. Sheesh.
Double sheesh. I wasnt calling you demanding. I feel demanding when I try to set boundaries right away. Like i said im a pushover. I got my feeling hurt just by your comment.
You have a strong point though; however, serial killers are very rare. Bad people tend to be more middle of the line and do awful things like child abuse and rape.....none of us are psychic but if the person comes across as a fake and overly charming on a constant basis then there is your big clue.
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I know, but I was just trying to give a quick example...but the post did make me think of that crazy BTK killer who was married for 30 years or something and was running around the whole time killing people. His wife had no idea!! How can you NOT see your husband is that big a freak????
Actually, my best friend is divorcing a guy that was NOTHING like she thought he was or what he told her he was. They were married 17 years!
I guess, if you look at my posts, you will never know anyone and they are all lying serial killers... Sorry!
I'm sorry Smithey. I like you. I can be really direct at times and it can come across as harsh.
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Double sheesh. I wasnt calling you demanding. I feel demanding when I try to set boundaries right away. Like i said im a pushover. I got my feeling hurt just by your comment.
That is how I am. I am very sincere and authentic. What you see is what you get. I am brash, direct, brutally honest, fun, and a smart guy....that is how I am and it probably will not change.
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It depends on the person you're dating. Sometimes you'll see the real person right away, and with others you'll see it years down the road.
With me, you'll see the real person in a relatively very short time, and you won't see any unpleasant surprises years down the road.
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Two words: background check. And I'm only half-kidding. See if what s/he tells you jibes with it and you're off. Too often in relationships we ignore warning signs and red flags. We're human. We see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear.
Though I agree with mrstewart too that you can never really know someone completely.
A lot of psychos do not have criminal backgrounds...
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Didn't Sierra say she does a background check on her dates? I think that is a very good idea. The resources are so readily available, why not??
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