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no I am a man and when I feel gassy I just pass it on out and that takes care of that...thanks for your concern.
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no i meant you could be gassy. and bloated. meaning, some people and women in particular, really get jacked up. im glad im not a woman. i would hate to be crampy too.
You don't have to have kids to be a good mentor to one.
I don't know how deeply you're into this mentoring stuff, but it isn't the same. It's good, don't get me wrong - better than not having anyone in the child's life - but still, it isn't the same.
Big Brothers and Sisters go home at the end of the day. Parents stay up all night when the kid has colic. BB's and BS's enjoy the good times. Parents enjoy them too - but also expect and deal with the bad times. BB's and BS's have a volunteer mission or job. Parents have a duty and a responsibility.
So what's your point? There is secondary research and literature on everything psychological on the internet....you don't always need to be a parent to get a clue about how somebody feels......
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I don't know how deeply you're into this mentoring stuff, but it isn't the same. It's good, don't get me wrong - better than not having anyone in the child's life - but still, it isn't the same.
Big Brothers and Sisters go home at the end of the day. Parents stay up all night when the kid has colic. BB's and BS's enjoy the good times. Parents enjoy them too - but also expect and deal with the bad times. BB's and BS's have a volunteer mission or job. Parents have a duty and a responsibility.
So what's your point? There is secondary research and literature on everything psychological on the internet....you don't always need to be a parent to get a clue about how somebody feels......
That's my point exactly - you DO.
The best use of Dr. Spock's book I ever encountered was when someone used it to spank their kid.
You can read all you want, but until you smell the smoke (and the poop) it's all just dry theory.
All you can do is deem yourself the rock in your daughters life. People will come and go but you can be her constant. Yeah it sucks that Dez did that but you cant do anything about it. I have become my neice's rock. I've been raising her since birth. Shes five now. Her mom, my sister, decided meth was more important. She has been in and out of my neices life at least 3 times throughout the years.
My niece was at a point she would say grace even over a bowl of oreos asking for her mom to come back. When she finally did come back, the first night, I was completely shattered. My sister decided to play hide and seek with my neice and my neice started crying, ran to the window, and told me she was checking to see if her mom's car was still there. : ( She lives in constant paranoia that she will be abandoned again. So the only thing you can do, is make sure youre always there for her. Though if my sister takes off again, thats it. I will try to get custody and out of her daughters life she will be.
I'm sorry to hear, that's not good and it makes me whining about my situation seem soooo miniscule....I may be overprotective and my husband said the same thing to me a bit ago.....just let it work itself out and be the bigger person, but I guess when somone hurts somone you love, especially your child.....i dunno, but that just sets something off inside me........
Anyway~ You guys all had good advice for me and a few laughs also "gassy" lol.......so thanks so much, I take all your advice to heart.
Its odd that your daughter is so attached to your cousin that your cousin can not visit normally. I say shame on you for pushing this attachment issue with your daughter. I have relatives who my children love, but some of them they only see once in a while, they do not crumble. It sounds like you have the attachment problem with your cousin and are making it look like its your daughter.
Not cool.
That could be true; however, it is still an issue that she tried to fix with her unreliable cousin.
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Its odd that your daughter is so attached to your cousin that your cousin can not visit normally. I say shame on you for pushing this attachment issue with your daughter. I have relatives who my children love, but some of them they only see once in a while, they do not crumble. It sounds like you have the attachment problem with your cousin and are making it look like its your daughter.
Not cool.
So what's your point? There is secondary research and literature on everything psychological on the internet....you don't always need to be a parent to get a clue about how somebody feels......
Its odd that your daughter is so attached to your cousin that your cousin can not visit normally. I say shame on you for pushing this attachment issue with your daughter. I have relatives who my children love, but some of them they only see once in a while, they do not crumble. It sounds like you have the attachment problem with your cousin and are making it look like its your daughter.
Not cool.
lol....okay. Your entitled to your opinion however, your sadly mistaken
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There is secondary research and literature on everything psychological on the internet....you don't always need to be a parent to get a clue about how somebody feels......
