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Old 09-03-2008, 09:44 PM
 
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How do you bring romance back into a marriage or relationship?

My husband and I have been married for 5 years now... We have a pretty good sex life, but once in awhile it would be nice to feel like were making love. I dont know where to start, or how to even approach the subjust with my husband without making him fell like I'm not satisified in bed.
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:45 PM
 
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sexy outfits ?
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:47 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Spend years learning how to forget and forgive petty grievances.

Become a Master at controlling your emotions.

Then, you can have all the romance you want...
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Spend years learning how to forget and forgive petty grievances.

Become a Master at controlling your emotions.

Then, you can have all the romance you want...
Yey, sounds like a quickie weekend project!
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:51 PM
 
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Yey, sounds like a quickie weekend project!
If that.

I've had students master it in 6 hours.
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:51 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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Sorry, I believe that the concept of romance was something manufactured by novelists to sell books. In reality, men and women have entirely different ideas of what "romance" is (as the responses to the OP will bear out). Women in general, have been dealt a very unfair hand. They have been led to believe since they were little girls that Prince Charming will come galloping in on his white horse and sweep her off her feet to live "happily ever after". No chance. Any relationship is a team effort and filled with ups and downs. Anyone who thinks otherwise is going to be in for a big disappointment.

20yrsinBranson
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:52 PM
 
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sexy outfits ?

Tried that and still do it, with music, candles and all. But it still feels like sex.


Do you think it's possiable that my husband feels the same, and just dosent know how to approach me?

Do most men know there even is a diffrance between making love and having sex?
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Old 09-03-2008, 09:52 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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They have been led to believe since they were little girls that Prince Charming will come galloping in on his white horse and sweep her off her feet to live "happily ever after". No chance. Any relationship is a team effort and filled with ups and downs. Anyone who thinks otherwise is going to be in for a big disappointment.
So you're saying it's never happened?
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Old 09-03-2008, 10:02 PM
 
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Sorry, I believe that the concept of romance was something manufactured by novelists to sell books. In reality, men and women have entirely different ideas of what "romance" is (as the responses to the OP will bear out). Women in general, have been dealt a very unfair hand. They have been led to believe since they were little girls that Prince Charming will come galloping in on his white horse and sweep her off her feet to live "happily ever after". No chance. Any relationship is a team effort and filled with ups and downs. Anyone who thinks otherwise is going to be in for a big disappointment.

20yrsinBranson

I agree that novelists create a false sence of romance to some degree.

I live in the real world not something that I have made up in "never never land" or happily ever after
However, before I was married I dated men who were g[SIZE=3]enuinely romantic. ( and it was more than just wanting to get my pants off at the time) [/SIZE]

When a man puts forth the effort to set the mood, or does something little it makes a huge impact.
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Old 09-03-2008, 10:04 PM
 
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He sounds like a science experiment gone terribly wrong just kidding

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Yey, sounds like a quickie weekend project!
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