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I ask myself this question from time to time (BTW, I am not seeking to do this). If something happened to my dh or we divorced for some reason, would I get married again?
I honestly don't know. I am totally open to being with someone without the "paper" but I don't think I could say NEVER to marriage again.
I was married for way too long because of that piece of paper and the vows and legal mess it entails. A commitment of the heart sounds better. Staying together because you want to and not because you have to.
If something happened and we either divorced or my husband passed away - that would be it. There are a lot of concessions to being married. I have absolutely no regrets. My life is full and rich because of my husband. Full and rich enough to last a lifetime.
Would I have married him all over again? Hell yeah.
Would I marry again after he's gone? Hell no. Once is enough!
Funny that you ask. I was married to my kids father and we divorced, I'd never marry him again but, am now in a relationship going on four years and up until a couple of months ago we were engaged. I broke off the engagement for several reasons, the relationship has not changed and nothing was meant to change other than the marriage part of it.
A little background and my reasoning for my decision. He's never been married, I have. His mother and I get along very well, I really do like her. When he and I were about two years into our relationship, marriage did come up and he basically said that he doesn't believe in marriage, would be forever in a relationship but that marriage in and of itself was not something he believed in especially after seeing his parents go through their divorce while he was in college. (it was a nasty divorce).
About that time, his mother began hinting around at marriage and of course between the two of us we were scheming and imaging and planning and really I feel kind of pushed him towards getting engaged. I realize this. I realize it was selfish of me to force him into something for me and not really for him. We stayed engaged for two years but never could work out details of a wedding date, marriage plans, etc... it was always "well, I want to do this first, or I want to do that first" and finally, two things happened. Aside from realizing that marriage wasn't for him and wasn't what he wanted, I realized something too. I realized I didn't "need"to be married, didn't "want" to be married again and was perfectly okay just being in a relationship for however long. I mean historically, couples live like this all the time, the best example I can give, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell - they never married but had children, and have been together forever. I don't believe you should get married just because it's what's expected by family, friends or society. If you want to be in a long term relationship, it can be succesful without the act of marriage.
So to answer the question, no - I will not get married again.
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If something happened to my dh or we divorced for some reason, would I get married again?
