Fell for someone that I shouldn't have....confused, hurt and cannot move on or forget... (women, cheated)
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If I do meet him tonight, nothing I say to him will be sugar coated. I am not angry with him or mad at him. I am going to be very honest with him and say everything from the heart.
Just don't go in with any expectations. Saying what you have to say should help out alot. Good luck.
Ya but spilling your guts makes you feel like garbage when the other person doesn't empathize or understand you. No point in relating to a lot of people these days. Too many toxic people. The same goes for the OP. He is through with her.
Agreed.
Let's see how this scenario plays out...
Finally, you've been able to move on, but because you're a Gluton???, you are willing to let him trample all over you in 6 months? He would have you right where he wants you, and he would know it.
Cut your losses, girl. Once youve touched the stove ..and know its hot..would you go to it again??
His greedy and user behavior would make me really angry; however, you have the right to your individuality and emotions. Let us know how it works.
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If I do meet him tonight, nothing I say to him will be sugar coated. I am not angry with him or mad at him. I am going to be very honest with him and say everything from the heart.
The stove analogy is great. Here is an example from my own experiences.
I was into this guy. I met him at a dance club with some friends. He came out of nowhere and screeched my name, then didn't want to talk. I went too look for him and he looked my way and then turned his back on me like a 4 year old throwing a tantrum. Literally, the guy was messing with me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed he was drinking.
So I finally fooled around with him, after several weeks of talking with him over the phone (I knew better at that point because he was weird over the phone) and so I felt completely terrible the next day knowing he had lost complete interest in me and had only used me for adoration and attention. Was a waste of time and I felt pretty bad about it to let myself be used and treated poorly. I should have known better. To other posters it may have been super obvious that I was making a stupid decision considering how conservative I am, but I was like a pollyanna at one point in my life assuming everybody had good intentions and that most people liked me for the good person I am. Not the case at all in much of my life.
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Agreed.
Let's see how this scenario plays out...
Finally, you've been able to move on, but because you're a Gluton???, you are willing to let him trample all over you in 6 months? He would have you right where he wants you, and he would know it.
Cut your losses, girl. Once youve touched the stove ..and know its hot..would you go to it again??
The stove analogy is great. Here is an example from my own experiences.
I was into this guy. I met him at a dance club with some friends. He came out of nowhere and screeched my name, then didn't want to talk. I went too look for him and he looked my way and then turned his back on me like a 4 year old throwing a tantrum. Literally, the guy was messing with me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed he was drinking.
So I finally fooled around with him, after several weeks of talking with him over the phone (I knew better at that point because he was weird over the phone) and so I felt completely terrible the next day knowing he had lost complete interest in me and had only used me for adoration and attention. Was a waste of time and I felt pretty bad about it to let myself be used and treated poorly. I should have known better. To other posters it may have been super obvious that I was making a stupid decision considering how conservative I am, but I was like a pollyanna at one point in my life assuming everybody had good intentions and that most people liked me for the good person I am. Not the case at all in much of my life.
And now you know....Good for you.
I think we have all been at that pollyanna point. There is always a lesson to be learned.
To be honest, though, self worth is what helps make the right decision.
Last edited by Jlyn5669; 09-26-2008 at 02:49 PM..
Reason: ugh, typo..again
Knowing that being with the "wrong person" can really mess up your self worth is what people should also know...and self worth is the most important of all.
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And now you know....Good for you.
I think we have all been at that pollyanna point. There is always a lesson to be learned.
To be honest, though, self worth is what helps make the right decision.
Update on what happened last night...well, things didn't go as originally planned.
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