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I was just curious as to how you all would react if you went into a store such as walmart and had an associate start flirting with or hitting on you. Would it all depend on whether you found the associate attractive? Or would you prefer not to get hit on regardless? I work at one of them places, and I of course have saw several attractive females...and while I have thought about trying to get to know them, I have never done it mainly because I feel that the person would be creeped out. What do you think?
it wouldnt be any more creepy than some other customer approaching them. "creepy" only really applies when they don't find you attractive/suitable anyway. say something flirtatious and if they aren't receptive to it stop.
It would be very creepy. I am there to shop, not get hit on. It also is very unprofessional and could get you fired.
It really depends on the situation. If you just try starting a conversation with them, it's no harm done and you probably couldn't get fired for it. However, if you came on strong and pretty much harassed them, then yes...you could probably get fired.
Be nice and don't worry about your inner feelings at all. They will let you know. If you can't discern human emotion properly or have a good idea if a girl-women is comfortable and enjoys your company in way that she would like to get to know you better, then your not in touch with peoples feelings and will only wreck peoples lives, regardless.
It really depends on the situation. If you just try starting a conversation with them, it's no harm done and you probably couldn't get fired for it. However, if you came on strong and pretty much harassed them, then yes...you could probably get fired.
Yes, bkern, so good of you to ask, and raise this issue. Light conversation is fine. Coming on in a personal way is crossing a line and could be seen as creepy, depending on the vibe, or just plain inappropriate. ("Overly forward" is the term I'd use if I were to complain about someone like that.) Tell me please, I've been wondering about this myself: what are the rules for cashiers and other help? Are they allowed to use their job to actively trawl for a mate? Seriously, I need to know.
I had an extremely creepy and bizarre experience with a truly strange cashier at a grocery store. Trying to avoid him didn't really work. (Unexpected staff schedule changes and all, you know.) I'd never lodged an official complaint about anyone in my life, so I didn't for a long time. Things just got weirder.
So anyway, I appreciate your posting this topic.
If a customer you might be interested in is a regular, and comes to your register regularly, just be friendly and cheerful. If she decides she'd like to get to know you, leave it up to her. Anything else might get you into trouble.
Also bear in mind that you know nothing about the customers. The woman you may think is cute may be a university professor or a lawyer, only interested in guys with an education similar to hers. Or the woman who appears to be single because she always comes in alone may be in a relationship. Or she may be a lot older than she looks. So it's best to be cautious.
Yes, bkern, so good of you to ask, and raise this issue. Light conversation is fine. Coming on in a personal way is crossing a line and could be seen as creepy, depending on the vibe, or just plain inappropriate. ("Overly forward" is the term I'd use if I were to complain about someone like that.) Tell me please, I've been wondering about this myself: what are the rules for cashiers and other help? Are they allowed to use their job to actively trawl for a mate? Seriously, I need to know.
I had an extremely creepy and bizarre experience with a truly strange cashier at a grocery store. Trying to avoid him didn't really work. (Unexpected staff schedule changes and all, you know.) I'd never lodged an official complaint about anyone in my life, so I didn't for a long time. Things just got weirder.
So anyway, I appreciate your posting this topic.
If a customer you might be interested in is a regular, and comes to your register regularly, just be friendly and cheerful. If she decides she'd like to get to know you, leave it up to her. Anything else might get you into trouble.
Also bear in mind that you know nothing about the customers. The woman you may think is cute may be a university professor or a lawyer, only interested in guys with an education similar to hers. Or the woman who appears to be single because she always comes in alone may be in a relationship. Or she may be a lot older than she looks. So it's best to be cautious.
The situation you described definitely sounds inappropriate. While I have worked at three different retail/grocery stores, I have never once read anything about the situation of flirting with customers in an attempt to get to know them. Thats because, at least I would assume, that it's self explanatory. If you come off as very creepy like that guy did to you, then that, I'd say is crossing the line.
I think that last part you described is the same for every situation though. You never really know someone until you talk to them. Even going to a bar...you can't just assume things about the people you meet. In order to find out about them, you gotta talk to them.
I think that last part you described is the same for every situation though. You never really know someone until you talk to them. Even going to a bar...you can't just assume things about the people you meet. In order to find out about them, you gotta talk to them.
True enough. Thanks for your response. So, is there a rule at stores against flirting with the customers, or any "sexual harassment" guidelines, or anything, for staff, in your experience?
True enough. Thanks for your response. So, is there a rule at stores against flirting with the customers, or any "sexual harassment" guidelines, or anything, for staff, in your experience?
Sexual Harassment at pretty much any job is a definite no no! Flirting, however, I don't think it's a bit deal and I've never seen a rule against it.
Sexual Harassment at pretty much any job is a definite no no! Flirting, however, I don't think it's a bit deal and I've never seen a rule against it.
The problem with this is that what you consider to be "flirting," the woman may consider "harrassment."
Of course, there are strict legal definitions of sexual harrassment.
I think you should ask your BOSS this question. That will clear it up for you real quick.
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