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I know of people who were asked to sign a prenup because their SO was part of a family business or had a business that had a partner(s). It wasn't necessarily about protecting one person's assets, but protecting others' investments & assets.
I think you're completely wrong about that. That's not true at all! A pre-nup is to make sure that my assets before marriage remain mine, and that the money my assets accrue during marriage remains mine.
It's only fair that whatever is mine is mine.
Yeah, you were arguing with an attorney, what do you expect?
Agreed. The insurance analogy is a good one. I didn't follow the McCartney/Mills problem, but they're all just nasty...and they award way more than a person needs to have a nice lifestyle. If the tables were turned, I'd sign theirs, too, if they had a lot of assets. It just means I would be out on my own as far as money goes, as it should be for a degreed professional.
In fact, you'd especially want a pre=nup if you married an attorney. In the first place, you probably shouldn't marry an attorney. When I asked a couple of my friends who went in law school in CA if there were any chicks (that's how guys talk, especially in their 20s) in law school they'd be interested in, they gave me the "you've gotta be kidding" response. Three arduous years of day-in, day-out arguing, researching, supporting, defending and even manipulating concepts and facts. And you want that in the sack and at your dinner table?
Yeah, you were arguing with an attorney, what do you expect?
Agreed. The insurance analogy is a good one. I didn't follow the McCartney/Mills problem, but they're all just nasty...and they award way more than a person needs to have a nice lifestyle. If the tables were turned, I'd sign theirs, too, if they had a lot of assets. It just means I would be out on my own as far as money goes, as it should be for a degreed professional.
In fact, you'd especially want a pre=nup if you married an attorney. In the first place, you probably shouldn't marry an attorney. When I asked a couple of my friends who went in law school in CA if there were any chicks (that's how guys talk, especially in their 20s) in law school they'd be interested in, they gave me the "you've gotta be kidding" response. Three arduous years of day-in, day-out arguing, researching, supporting, defending and even manipulating concepts and facts. And you want that in the sack and at your dinner table?
Pre-nup, baby, pre-nup.
Haha, wow, I never thought about that. I have a friend, the first girl I had a crush on when I was 7 or something, so I've known her for a long time, she is in law school now. Yeah I can't imagine the arguments we'd have, god, philosophy degree versus lawyer. Let's just say it would be some bitter battles.
yes, when you marry you share everything. As traditional as it sounds thats how its suppose to be. If you are already considering how to protect your assets from the get go then you arent fully committing to the relationship. If you both want it I guess thats a different story.
Maybe we should ask Paul McCartney if he should have had Heather Mills sign a pre-nup...
Yeah, there are certain "risk factors" such as marrying someone MUCH younger and pretty when you are worth GOBS of cash.
Here is the irony...if I were 50-60 and dating my current gf....I would have to wonder about her motivations in that regard. As it stands...I'm younger than her and frankly, after 3-4 months in the gym she seems vastly more interested in things other than my wallet...
If you are already considering how to protect your assets from the get go then you arent fully committing to the relationship.
Selectively quoting part of what you wrote...ok, so with the 50+% divorce rate, you're saying people should also commit to sharing stuff with the other party that they didn't bring to the marriage and rightfully does not belong to them?
Haha, wow, I never thought about that. I have a friend, the first girl I had a crush on when I was 7 or something, so I've known her for a long time, she is in law school now. Yeah I can't imagine the arguments we'd have, god, philosophy degree versus lawyer. Let's just say it would be some bitter battles.
When arguing a lawyer that you are dating....follow this simple rule. Loser gets to choose positions. You are arguing with a woman AND a lawyer....odds are you are doomed so might as well go down smiling. (poor choice of words? ) Then again, you might get some cheap victories as she might throw the match.
Selectively quoting part of what you wrote...ok, so with the 50+% divorce rate, you're saying people should also commit to sharing stuff with the other party that they didn't bring to the marriage and rightfully does not belong to them?
That sounds like girl logic if I've ever heard it.
Protecting your assets isn't a matter of not committing, it's just good sense, it's a matter of not being a moron.
Let's say you become involved with someone that has signifigant financial assets. Not a whole lot, be enough to where they have no financial worries or concerns.
They had their assts before you became involved. They want to protect their assets and ensure that they are not wiped out in the event of a divorce.
Would you be offended if your spouse asked you to sign a pre-nup?
Edit: One person has assets and the other does not.
PS: Notice I did not say he/she. It could be either or doing the asking. The gender is not important.
I wouldnt be offended- Id do a reverse prenup and say if he divorces me or cheats on me then I get half of everything lol. I wouldnt ask for one though even with my net worth because Im in it for life and if I marry someone I trust they wont screw me over. Naive on my part I know...
My sister just got engaged 2 days ago and she is probably going to be a millionare by next year lol and after reading this thread I called and asked her if she would get him to sign a pre nup (he makes considerably less and probably wont ever match her) she said "hell no!" lol I guess the ladies in my family are trusting lol
Even though I most likely would not get married at all, I definitely wouldn't get married without a pre-nup. No girl is entitled to any of my assets. She can work for her own money. Whatever I give her, she should be grateful for, not think she can just take at will. No thanks.
With this attitude you'll never get married anyway. There is a significant difference between protecting your assets and being selfish. This post displays extreme selfishness.
If the person was simply protecting his assets, I wouldn't have a problem with a pre-nup.
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