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So I know you guys are going to ROFL over this one.
Have you ever wanted to get "closure" from an ex? Well I had this speech written down on paper to read to my ex, since he never answers his cell phone and that is all I wanted to do was to get a few things off my chest. I had even practiced it a few times alone...yes, I know weird huh, so when I dial his phone, guess who answers-his new girlfriend! We broke up in March and he's been dating this woman for six months? Is my timing bad r what? So we have a little convo, and I mention casually that I'm his ex girlfriend and we had a lot of problems, including the fact that he "don't treat women very well" and he's "emotionally abusive". I guess I must have left a bad taste in her mouth. She apparently tells him and he calls my family to rat me out, saying I "intimidated (or some word like that) her...Boy do I feel like a fool. I wasn't trying to "intimidate" her. Anyway, it seems there is no "civil" way to break up with an ex. I wish there was, but there is always someone like this who is apparantly whacked out mentally. Why is this bugging me so much? It looks like I am trying to get him back, but I am the one who walked out to begin with.
So I know you guys are going to ROFL over this one.
Have you ever wanted to get "closure" from an ex? Well I had this speech written down on paper to read to my ex, since he never answers his cell phone and that is all I wanted to do was to get a few things off my chest. I had even practiced it a few times alone...yes, I know weird huh, so when I dial his phone, guess who answers-his new girlfriend! We broke up in March and he's been dating this woman for six months? Is my timing bad r what? So we have a little convo, and I mention casually that I'm his ex girlfriend and we had a lot of problems, including the fact that he "don't treat women very well" and he's "emotionally abusive". I guess I must have left a bad taste in her mouth. She apparently tells him and he calls my family to rat me out, saying I "intimidated (or some word like that) her...Boy do I feel like a fool. I wasn't trying to "intimidate" her. Anyway, it seems there is no "civil" way to break up with an ex. I wish there was, but there is always someone like this who is apparantly whacked out mentally. Why is this bugging me so much? It looks like I am trying to get him back, but I am the one who walked out to begin with.
Mmmm...and that's where I would blurt "Wrong number!" panic, and hang up.
I couldn't have kept composed like that. Probably a bad idea on your part, but I've warned girls that my ex was dating of how much of a cheating bastard he was. And they ended up being good friends...so, time will tell with this one.
Ooooh, I guess it goes to show you should not ever call an ex...not worth it! The two of them calling your family was a bit over the top, don't you think? What was that going to solve?
When she answered the phone, all you had to do was say,"Sorry. Wrong number." I don`t see where it was necessary for you to go into details about your ex, to her. Thats for her to find out for herself.
You need to leave well enough alone, and go find yourself a nice BF.
I know, foolish move on my part.... As for hanging up, the only problem is cell phones have caller ID and she could find out, maybe...But I guess it was brave that I steered the convo around like that...
for him its over but not for you
having his current GF talk to you is a good way
for him to set boundaries with you
you may have to get closure on your own
i dont think he wants to play anymore.
I can understand this thing about closure. I have been guilty of this and it did not end well. Anyway, this should've been between you and your ex, not you and your ex's current gf. I think the current gf was in the right for being upset. You were trying to get your closure from the wrong person.
Outside of the fact that you should not have called, esp after such a long time, she probably didn't believe you and thought you were calling to sabotage their relationship. You honestly owe her an apology.
I do understand when you haven't gotten closure it can be difficult to get over the old relationship but there's a time when it's too late. Writing it out was good and often recommended to help you achieve closure but calling to share what you wrote with him... well you already know the answer to that. Good Luck getting over your ex.
I think it was immature for them to call your family. First of all your family have nothing to do with this incident or your relationships. However, his current girlfriend has nothing to do with the relationship you HAD with him neither. So, for you to spill things/emotions/feelings/opinions to her was inappropriate. I don't think you should have been calling him at this juncture anyway, but certainly shouldn't have had the conversation you had. Let it go and move on. That's where the closure will come from.
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