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So this weekend I'm going on my first date since the madness with my ex and I'm a nervous wreck..I like this guy and I don't want to start saying the wrong things (you know the dating scene is dead these days so I have to be a bit apprehensive). It's been a while for me and everything is fuzzy..post some good info please I don't even know what to wear
Wear something comfortable, slightly fitted, that shows a little cleavage. Wear your best underwear to make yourself feel sexy. He doesn't have to see it, just wear it for yourself. A little nice jewelry is okay, just a hint of sparkle. No perfume, just bathe in something light and fragrant.
Ask him questions about things he's interested in. Try sports or music. If you're on the same page, you can talk politics or current events. If not, stay away from politics.
If he's a good date, he'll ask you about things you're interested in. But listen closely to him and try to pick up on his interests and try to steer the conversation in that direction from time to time. Don't spend the whole date talking about yourself.
And whatever you do, stay away from topics concerning your ex, money, or religion - AND, don't talk about getting married.
Yep. The biggie is to not find yourself drifting into conversation about contention w/ your ex. It can easily happen, especially if your date recently got divorced or broke up w/ a longtime companion. Nothing wrong if he asks some specific questions (How long were you together? type stuff). But keep it upbeat and don't dwell on those types of questions and move on to other stuff.
On our first date, DH and I did find ourselves talking about religion but only b/c we found common ground. And we also talked some politics, but one must be very very careful about getting into those discussions. We got off on talking about religion b/c we were talking about travel and I said I liked going to Europe and checking out the pubs and the cathedrals - so that led to talking about cathedrals and then to religion. Since it turned out we held the same beliefs, that was a good subject for us. But it doesn't always work out that way!!!!
My friends tell me that on first dates . . . they are usually prepared to answer questions about "what do you like to do" b/c both parties are trying to figure out compatibility - and if there are things in the future they might want to do together. So be prepared w/ those types of Q&A. Are you into concerts? Are you into skiing? Where do you like to travel? etc. Those are usually very safe topics.
Thanks ellie! As far I shall avoid any reference of my ex because I'm pretty sure I'd be describing him with using letter words..As for what I want to wear, I want to look sophistcated, classy with a small hint of sexy..I think these shoes will complete the sexy part:
Thanks ellie! As far I shall avoid any reference of my ex because I'm pretty sure I'd be describing him with using letter words..As for what I want to wear, I want to look sophistcated, classy with a small hint of sexy..I think these shoes will complete the sexy part:
I wish I could wear shoes like that! They're beautiful.
Also, make sure you smile and laugh (but not loud laughter). If you want him to be interested, you need to behave like he's an interesting person.
LOL..I'm good at that, plus I tend to laugh when I'm nervous, I just have to watch the volume.
Now I do have the option of making this a double date (to lighten up the mood) since I did meet him at a family affair. Would that be too cheesy?
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I don't even know what to wear 
