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right, if the guy was in the middle of a program to lose weight, and making healthy choices, etc, then maybe, but my initial attraction is to someone who is in good shape.
it would depend on how "fat" and what he was doing to change it. If he had no intention of ever losing weight or caring about his health, then no way. also if he didn't eat right.
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I didn't vote because it depends....my initial reaction was to vote no only because my passion is fitness so it wouldn't make sense for me to be with somone who was heavy by choice....however, people can change their lives for the better and i'd be happy to make that comitment with somone that had all of the other qualities I look for...its what I do
"Fatness" or unhealthiness is not who anyone is.....it's something that can be rectified with some hard work and a personal trainer . If a guy is smart, sweet, mature, caring, motivated, successful and all of the other things that women look for in a man then why would they not be seen as attractive? However, if the man has no motivation to become healthy that could be a problem, for me at least.
sorry I disagree with this. Most people who are past a certain weight lack the willpower necessary to lose weight. Being fat severely impacts one's lifestyle and can be a major incompatibility issue with someone who is physically fit. I laugh when people scream how it is shallow for someone who is fit to want a partner who is not overweight as well. I think it is critical that the other person have the same fit lifestyle as opposed to just sitting on a couch and eating.
In 99% of the cases, being fat is due to choices the individual made in his lifestyle about not taking care of his health. There could also be other factors like depression and/or laziness that is causing him to neglect his health. So, I would say it is a major red flag.
Everyone has their own preference. I am someone who works out 4-5 days a week, eats healthy and truly focuses on taking care of my body, I want someone who does the same. It's theraputic to a health and wellness and it's good for your mental wellbeing. So the answer to the question is, no- I do not get romantically involved with overweight individuals. I'm friends with them, but I am always lecturing on nutrition and fitness.
sorry I disagree with this. Most people who are past a certain weight lack the willpower necessary to lose weight. Being fat severely impacts one's lifestyle and can be a major incompatibility issue with someone who is physically fit. I laugh when people scream how it is shallow for someone who is fit to want a partner who is not overweight as well. I think it is critical that the other person have the same fit lifestyle as opposed to just sitting on a couch and eating.
In 99% of the cases, being fat is due to choices the individual made in his lifestyle about not taking care of his health. There could also be other factors like depression and/or laziness that is causing him to neglect his health. So, I would say it is a major red flag.
Don't be sorry...to each his own. However, I do feel that people can change thier lives and thier bodies for the better....all it takes is comitment and effort...I trained a guy who had been overweight for his entire life...he woke up one morning and decided he didn't want to be overweight anymore so he came to me....he's been at 12% body fat now for the last 3 years....totally dedicated and you should see the girls this guy gets omg. So I maintain my stance at yes, if a guy happened to be overweight but also happened to exhibit all of the traits I look for including, as I previously stated, the motivation and comitment to fitness.....yes, I could be interested.
good points you make "k374", my ideal mate wouldn't have to be in Lance Armstrong type shape, but willing to exercise, stock the kitchen with healthy food choices, getting out and moving, etc. These are things that are attractive to me. My initial attraction is to someone who is in shape and takes care of themselves. I do, and it would give me extra motivation to work out. we could work out together, do sports together, etc.
and continue that lifestyle for a very long time.
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sorry I disagree with this. Most people who are past a certain weight lack the willpower necessary to lose weight. Being fat severely impacts one's lifestyle and can be a major incompatibility issue with someone who is physically fit. I laugh when people scream how it is shallow for someone who is fit to want a partner who is not overweight as well. I think it is critical that the other person have the same fit lifestyle as opposed to just sitting on a couch and eating.
In 99% of the cases, being fat is due to choices the individual made in his lifestyle about not taking care of his health. There could also be other factors like depression and/or laziness that is causing him to neglect his health. So, I would say it is a major red flag.
Fat men can give some great cuddly hugs! I think the world has gone crazy judging people on their looks, weight, social status, ect. It is good to be healthy, but would you want to never know the love of a good person, with outstanding personal morals, great sex, wonderful father, financial stability and loves you to death. I'm sure we've all seen the sign where a woman skeleton is sitting down "waiting for Mr. Right."
No, my husband is not fat, neither am I. I do have about 10 pounds to lose, but it aint' gonna happen till after Christmas.
"Fatness" or unhealthiness is not who anyone is.....it's something that can be rectified with some hard work and a personal trainer . If a guy is smart, sweet, mature, caring, motivated, successful and all of the other things that women look for in a man then why would they not be seen as attractive? However, if the man has no motivation to become healthy that could be a problem, for me at least.
Oh, you are such a sweetie Lola!
I have dropped 7 lbs in a week, btw. Kettlebells and lo-carb.
Oh, yeah! Remember the skinny one I locked in my closet at home? I'm fattening him up for Christmas and make him show me a finger every day to check how he's progressing! So far he looks like a promising holiday meal!
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