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What has been your worst deception on a romantic relationship?
Gawd, I'll be honest and I thought a lot after posting this, but I'll share it I have to say that those posts of sexless marriage inspired me
Mine was with the last girlfriend I had, I met her more than 3 years ago, and since the first time I found her attractive so I decided to go and talk to her, that day we connected and kept talking the entire party, and she started call me a lot and told me to go out again, we did and after that we kissed, she got even more pushy, I have to be honest and I found this kind of strange, specially becuause she is very very pretty, and I was starting to feel overwhelmed by the pressure and I didn't like that, besides I had plans to go and live to Brazil for a long time so I didn't want to have a serious relationship, but for some reason she was absolutely convinced I was the guy for her and kept insisting, so I thought, ok well she's a nice girl, who's been really nice to me, and she has been more interested in me than anyother girl that I have met, so I accepted to be his boyfriend, we continued going out for a couple of months until the time came for me to go to brazil, I did but we continued in touch and I started to miss her so one day on MSN we both decided that she would come and live with me after her graduation was over, after another month when this happened I returned to Mexico for her and we left.
First it was very romantic, I was living with a girl I thought was my soulmate and who adored me but as the time passed she started to behave strangely, she waaaaas very misterious like always hiding something from me, always scared like if her consciousness wasn't at peace for some reason, besides that she started to become more and more hostile to me, I didn't understand why until one day she told me that she suspected of my female friends and she wanted me to stop talking to them, I didn't like this and I didn't accept, but this kept making our relationship worse, so slowly started to loose touch with my friends, I have to say I was resented by this, the same with her constant jealousy and paranoia, this continued until I couldn't take it no more and decided to return to Mexico, when I told her this she got very angry at me, and told me how evil I was for fooling her and bringing her with me, and now wanting to dump her like trash and stuff, this went on for some more months until we returned to Mexico, and slowly we started to become more and more apart until she got her own place, strangely enough she still wanted to be with me, because everytime I spoke of having a break and stuff she would cry and tell me how much she loved me and how much I meant to her and stuff, so we continued but decided that we would have our spaces for awhile and see how things would work out, needless to say she was resented for this, and kept telling me I was an irresponsible man, who evaded life and didn't want to face the challenges of being with a woman and stuff, this continued until I was more and more exhausted, another weird thing that happened is that our intimacy started to get weird, it had started in brazil, but it got weirder when we got back, she started to reject me more and more, and put up any excuse not to be with me, whenever I asked what was wrong she always gave me answers like, well what did you expect, you bring me to another country, then you take me back here and abandon me? but somehow my intuition told me this wasn't the truth, I kept insisting and then she said, hmmm maybe it's the routine, we should watch some porn to spice things up, i'll be honest I'm not a porn guy LOL, but I said ok, if this is gonna help why not, then she made me some remarks like, hmmm you know? I would propose some stuff to you, but you are too good, and I was, like what kind of stuf???? she never told me, but the problem continued and I kept insiting what was wrong and then she said, the problem is you because you suck at sex!!! then I was like oh yeah? well then why don't we break up? but again she said, forgive me i'm under too much stress, but we can work it out, etc.
well then I had to go to brazil again, this time I went alone, and after a couple of weeks, I started to feel alive and refreshed again, like if my old self was coming back, and everytime I talked to her I started to feel insecure, anxious and powerless again until I couldn't take it aymore and I decided to end everything, it was a drama, she called me everyday crying and telling me we should think on all what we've been through together, that I was the love of her life etc, at this point even though I felt bad for breaking up I just couldn't take it anymore so I stayed firm, then she got mad and told me never in your life talk to me again.
well after this I spent sometime alone, reconnecting myself with my inner being, 7 months passed and during this time I sometimes felt that maybe I was too hard on her, that I should have tried harder maybe, and I missed the good times we spent together, these thoughts kept appearning on my mind from time to time and made me loose my inner peace, well then after some months more she contacted me by MSN, I was shocked, then she told me that she was leaving to Canada and that she wanted me to take care of the cats, I was like ok sure... And then I told her, you know before you leave we should meet and talk, she agreed and we did.
After that we talked, and got nostalgic, she told me that she was very sorry for all the crap that made me go through, that she know was conscious of her mistakes, I told her, well I made a lot of mistakes with you too, and well we kept talking and talking until it got late, and I was like ok I should be leaving now or you are going to loose your plane tomorrow, but she told me, don't go please stay with me, I was like but your plane? and she told me who cares, then I say ok does this mean we are back together?? then she told me well it depends, and I was like depends on what? then she said, I'm not gonna return with you if we live in separate homes, come and stay here with me again, and well in the rush of the moment I did.
But not after a week of being together, those problems in intimacy started again, but again she refused to tell me what was wrong, her reply was always like, well it is that you are too good, it was then when I started to analyze the whole situation and I discovered the truth.
and what truth is that? well this girl who I always thought, well she might be a bit insecure and possesive, jealous and controlling, but she's a nice girl who wouldn't betray me on my back, that's what I thought until I found out that she was into swinging, and other weird stuff involving threesomes and stuff
then it all came clear, to me and I understood why was I too good, why all that paranoia and possesiveness, why all these weird behavior, and why one day while her cousin was visiting us, she jokingly pulled her pants down leaving her in panties, I understood what was she wanting then.
Needless to say, I was first shocked, then hurt and finally angry, because she gave me always a fake face, and she put up that face for more than a year while we lived in brazil until she starting to reveal her true self.
I know it's all my fault for being blind and not wanting to see, I guess also that when she went to Brazil with me she wanted to get out of all this weird stuff, but that after awhile she felt the call of all this again.
Well, that's my worst deception, but on the positive side I learnt a lot with that hehehehehehe what's yours?
Hey, what's her number? HA! 'Just kidding. That is one co-dependent woman if you ask me, and you are right, weird. Be glad you are not with her anymore, or that you did not catch any diseases from her... if you don't know, I'd go get a test. Serious.
I never dated any weirdos, well except for one that some may not find weird. Her name was Sonia, and she was great, all was good, until she learned when my birthday was. Yes, I too was confused. However, I later learned from her that she was waaaayyyy into astrology!
Our relationship went downhill after that, but what really ended I think is when she asked me if I would go with her to get my palm read! I asked 'what?'. She said they are usually right, and it only cost $5.00 back then. My response to her was 'Why? Bull***t is free'. We never talked again after that. That is a true story. Our signs were evidently not compatible.
Trav, so good to see you! I've been wondering where you've been.
I was deceived by a pathological liar a while back. It was a very creepy situation, he seemed like a "regular guy" with nothing to hide, but I was very wrong. I was amazed at all the horrific things that happened to him in the short 2 months that I knew him. He got in a near fatal car accident, which totaled his brand new car, which got him in a situation of not being able to pay all of his employees, then his dad had a stroke and hospitalized. Yeah he was full of non sense drama. The good thing was that I never "fell" for him, I just thought he was a friend with many issues. Then after I put all the pieces together and his behavior was very hot and cold, I realized he was up to no good.
So, about 10 years ago or so, I was living with this guy and it was a horrible relationship. Well, instead of just breaking up w/him I started dating a coworker. One night, my coworker drove me home and we were kissing in his truck when my boyfriend came outside to take the trash out.
So, when I went inside, my bf asked me "were you just kissing ___?". Instead of just 'fessing up, I acted offended and replied, "I don't know what you think you saw, but I wasn't kissing ______".
He actually bought it, and a few months later I finally found the balls to break up with him. It's horrible, but he was such an ass I always giggle when I think back on it.
Location: The world, where will fate take me this time?
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Originally Posted by moonsavvy
Trav, so good to see you! I've been wondering where you've been.
I was deceived by a pathological liar a while back. It was a very creepy situation, he seemed like a "regular guy" with nothing to hide, but I was very wrong. I was amazed at all the horrific things that happened to him in the short 2 months that I knew him. He got in a near fatal car accident, which totaled his brand new car, which got him in a situation of not being able to pay all of his employees, then his dad had a stroke and hospitalized. Yeah he was full of non sense drama. The good thing was that I never "fell" for him, I just thought he was a friend with many issues. Then after I put all the pieces together and his behavior was very hot and cold, I realized he was up to no good.
Heeey Mooon, like always it's great to see you I haven't been around much because I got entangled into this huge mess but everything's good now.
pathological liars are creepy huh?? we need to develop our 6th sense to detect lies and sense motives hehehehehehe
I've been fortunate in that I haven't dated a lot of losers. Closest was a gal who had lots of excuses for things and a penchant for drama. After a couple months I suggested she start looking inward to solve her many issues. She got POd, and I didnt speak to her much after that. Good thing for me.
i thought you would never ask. did i tell you bout my eharmony blonde cutie. after several months of emails and phone calls made the plunge and caught a flight to nashville. there she was standing in the parking lot, quasimoto.
i thought you would never ask. did i tell you bout my eharmony blonde cutie. after several months of emails and phone calls made the plunge and caught a flight to nashville. there she was standing in the parking lot, quasimoto.
I doubt anybody here could possibly not know about Quasimodo, Huck...
I doubt anybody here could possibly not know about Quasimodo, Huck...
but with age and repetition i get better at my story telling and it was by invitation no? of course i must be aware you are right. some sharp people dont miss much and watch more than 1 channel on any particular day.
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but as the time passed she started to behave strangely, she waaaaas very misterious like always hiding something from me, always scared like if her consciousness wasn't at peace for some reason, besides that she started to become more and more hostile to me, I didn't understand why until one day she told me that she suspected of my female friends and she wanted me to stop talking to them, I didn't like this and I didn't accept, but this kept making our relationship worse, so slowly started to loose touch with my friends, I have to say I was resented by this, the same with her constant jealousy and paranoia, this continued until I couldn't take it no more and decided to return to Mexico, when I told her this she got very angry at me, and told me how evil I was for fooling her and bringing her with me, and now wanting to dump her like trash and stuff, this went on for some more months until we returned to Mexico, and slowly we started to become more and more apart until she got her own place, strangely enough she still wanted to be with me, because everytime I spoke of having a break and stuff she would cry and tell me how much she loved me and how much I meant to her and stuff, so we continued but decided that we would have our spaces for awhile and see how things would work out, needless to say she was resented for this, and kept telling me I was an irresponsible man, who evaded life and didn't want to face the challenges of being with a woman and stuff, this continued until I was more and more exhausted, another weird thing that happened is that our intimacy started to get weird, it had started in brazil, but it got weirder when we got back, she started to reject me more and more, and put up any excuse not to be with me, whenever I asked what was wrong she always gave me answers like, well what did you expect, you bring me to another country, then you take me back here and abandon me? but somehow my intuition told me this wasn't the truth, I kept insisting and then she said, hmmm maybe it's the routine, we should watch some porn to spice things up, i'll be honest I'm not a porn guy LOL, but I said ok, if this is gonna help why not, then she made me some remarks like, hmmm you know? I would propose some stuff to you, but you are too good, and I was, like what kind of stuf???? she never told me, but the problem continued and I kept insiting what was wrong and then she said, the problem is you because you suck at sex!!! then I was like oh yeah? well then why don't we break up? but again she said, forgive me i'm under too much stress, but we can work it out, etc.
Yes, I too was confused. However, I later learned from her that she was waaaayyyy into astrology!
