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I have dated guys who are skinny and nerdy - BUT THEY HAD CONFIDENCE....that's the key. If they are confident and not all wimpy and wishy washy then I'd date them.
What kind of confidence is it that you all speak of?
What would such a guy be confident about? I'm obviously out-of-the-loop, so give me some examples if you like.
*Perhaps this part of the reason why I haven't had a date in years. I'm friendly, outgoing, energetic, medium athletic build, average height, mid 20's etc.
I think from time to time I come across as wishy-washy. However no one has ever told me this.
What does wishy-washy mean exactly and what areas of "wishy-washyness" are unattractive?
He knows his own boundaries.
He knows his own mind and can decline or accept ideas from others.
He doesn't sway back and forth in the wind of popular trends.
He instigates fun and doesn't wait for someone else to start in order not
to rock the boat.
He has ideas he believes in and knows why he does, whether or not
he stands alone with them.
Charisma. Confidence. Character.
Glad you brought this subject up. You sound like a great guy!
I think people show confidence when they take on challenging endeavors and accomplish them--whether it's going to college, raising children, building a house or managing a business. It's the feeling that comes from looking at something difficult and thinking "I can do that" and then doing it. With that feeling comes the ability to look people in the eye when talking to them, the ability to feel comfortable talking to different types of people in different situations and the ability to be flexible when circumstances change.
Confidence breeds success and success breeds confidence.
The problem with women is that women MOST OF THE TIMES fall for the guys that portray an ILLUSION of confindence rather than for the guys that actually have it.
The problem with women is that women MOST OF THE TIMES fall for the guys that portray an ILLUSION of confindence rather than for the guys that actually have it.
Yes the illusion of confidence. Confidence comes when we know what we want out of life and don't use other's emotions or time as a homebase to figure that out. Confidence means making decisions, especailly tough ones and standing behind them. Confidence also means having enough faith in your word. It isn't all about an appearance but more about how once conducts himself. To me, confidence is very much wrapped up in the quality of a man's character.
I agree with what y'all are saying, but I feel like many of the suggestions don't address his problem. Character, decision making, financial success, raising children, dealing with adversity, etc. are all important, don't get me wrong. But since the OP hasn't had a date in a while, my impression was that he was thinking a little more short-term. All those other long-term qualities only come into play once someone is already attracted to you.
When being introduced to people, the perception that women have of him is more important than the reality of his character. You might have the greatest, most upstanding character around, but it won't do any good if you are making the wrong impressions.
Since it's my post that seems to have stirred the masses
con·fi·dence /ˈkɒnfɪdəns/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[kon-fi-duhns] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing: We have every confidence in their ability to succeed. 2. belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him.
3. certitude; assurance: He described the situation with such confidence that the audience believed him completely. 4. a confidential communication: to exchange confidences.
5. (esp. in European politics) the wish to retain an incumbent government in office, as shown by a vote in a particular issue: a vote of confidence.
6. presumption; impudence: Her disdainful look crushed the confidence of the brash young man.
7. Archaic. something that gives confidence; ground of trust.
—Idiom8. in confidence, as a secret or private matter, not to be divulged or communicated to others; with belief in a person's sense of discretion: I told him in confidence.
[Origin: 1350–1400; ME (< MF) < L confīdentia. See confide, -ence]
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