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I know this guy I am seriously attracted to and I would love to ask him out - however I have a strong personality and don't want to come off as to aggressive. I have a few ideas on how to do this and how to approach the situation.
He doesn't wear a ring (I know that that doesn't mean anything) and i have not seen any "personal" items around him - such as family photos, etc...
Now I don't want to overstep my bounds in case he is in a relationship but I want to make my interest known...
guys - what would you suggest? Girls - what have you done in the past in this situation?
Heres my thoughts... I said I would get some inforamtion for him regarding a project and I have it - but want to include my personal phone number with a statement of - if you are interested in getting together give me a call... --- something like that... to subtle?
I know this guy I am seriously attracted to and I would love to ask him out - however I have a strong personality and don't want to come off as to aggressive. I have a few ideas on how to do this and how to approach the situation.
He doesn't wear a ring (I know that that doesn't mean anything) and i have not seen any "personal" items around him - such as family photos, etc...
Now I don't want to overstep my bounds in case he is in a relationship but I want to make my interest known...
guys - what would you suggest? Girls - what have you done in the past in this situation?
Heres my thoughts... I said I would get some inforamtion for him regarding a project and I have it - but want to include my personal phone number with a statement of - if you are interested in getting together give me a call... --- something like that... to subtle?
That doesn't sound too outrageous to me? It seems like a no harm no foul way to do it. You are also correct by some guys don't always wear a ring at work. Jobs like mine they can be a pain with electrocution risks. Never the less, I would wear one anyway!
Men tend to be wired for specifics (Rather than "Can you give me a hand around the house" specifics like "Would you vacuum the living room sweetie?" works better), so perhaps the note should say something like "Give me a call if you'd like to go out for a beer (or coffee) sometime!"
Last edited by sunshineleith; 02-11-2010 at 04:34 AM..
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I know this guy I am seriously attracted to and I would love to ask him out - however I have a strong personality and don't want to come off as to aggressive. I have a few ideas on how to do this and how to approach the situation.
He doesn't wear a ring (I know that that doesn't mean anything) and i have not seen any "personal" items around him - such as family photos, etc...
Now I don't want to overstep my bounds in case he is in a relationship but I want to make my interest known...
guys - what would you suggest? Girls - what have you done in the past in this situation?
Heres my thoughts... I said I would get some inforamtion for him regarding a project and I have it - but want to include my personal phone number with a statement of - if you are interested in getting together give me a call... --- something like that... to subtle?
I know this guy I am seriously attracted to and I would love to ask him out - however I have a strong personality and don't want to come off as to aggressive. I have a few ideas on how to do this and how to approach the situation.
He doesn't wear a ring (I know that that doesn't mean anything) and i have not seen any "personal" items around him - such as family photos, etc...
Now I don't want to overstep my bounds in case he is in a relationship but I want to make my interest known...
guys - what would you suggest? Girls - what have you done in the past in this situation?
Heres my thoughts... I said I would get some inforamtion for him regarding a project and I have it - but want to include my personal phone number with a statement of - if you are interested in getting together give me a call... --- something like that... to subtle?
I think it is a decent idea. He asked for some project info and you are giving it to him along with a low-pressure invitation to call and get together some time. I don't think many men would find that too aggressive or too forward
Yes the the note is too subtle, it could easily get missed/lost/accidentally thrown out in amongst the other paperwork you're giving him. And then you get no call and assume he's not interested when, maybe he is.
Most guys would be flattered by the direct approach, just give him a warm sweet smile to soften any intensity in your personality. I would definitely respond positively if you came over and said something like this:
"I just have to tell you that I think you're really cute, and I'd love to go out with you for a beer or coffee sometime. By the way, here's that research you need for your project."
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It seems like a no harm no foul way to do it. You are also correct by some guys don't always wear a ring at work. Jobs like mine they can be a pain with electrocution risks. Never the less, I would wear one anyway! 
But I'm asking because my reply will not be the same for an 18 year old, and a 40 year old. 
