Would you do this? (wife, girlfriend, guys, separation)

[Sum1Else]

We are in the midst of separation, soon to be divorce. We have a joint account (yeah I know but he has direct deposit going in there right now).

He put the child support etc into that account for me and I transferred it to my account except for $50 just in case I accidentally used the wrong card once. (To avoid overdraft fees).

I checked the account today. Lo and behold!!! It's overdrawn! He's made 3 purchases in the last week and overdrew it by just over $50. With the fees it will be $120 in the hole.

I sent him an e-mail because I can track our communication that way.

ALSO, his truck payment is in both of our names and cannot be refinanced. It is now 32 days late and they are calling me and unable to get in touch with him.

Now, would you forward said e-mail to his girlfriend? I'm so so so tempted but I don't know that it is ethical.

NOTE: I have our three children - 8, 8, 5. I make 1/4 what he does and only just received my first paycheck. The bills for us are all paid or have arrangements.

[yankeegirl313]

Keep track of everything. Come divorce time, you can add that too!
No need in emailing his GF. She will find out soon enough how he is.....ashame he has three small kids though..

[orangeapple]

No...don't be petty & drag the gf into it. You'll just make yourself look like the crazy ex-wife. Go about things legally and in an adult manner.

[Sum1Else]

LOL I agree. I have kept her out of this stuff.

It is SOOOO tempting though.

However, given her wishy-washy history, it wouldn't make a difference anyway.

I just needed to post this for some release, ya know?

[cpg35223]

Pick up the cotton-picking phone. E-mail, while tempting, can be awfully passive aggressive.

[NoLoveLost]

yeah it has nothing to do with her, keep your records (hard copies of everything) and keep it clean. It will make you look better in the end

[MooksterL1]

No! Don't contact her at all. She's not the one draining the account or not paying the truck payment. However, you should remove your name from the join account ASAP.

[Sum1Else]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Pick up the cotton-picking phone. E-mail, while tempting, can be awfully passive aggressive.

Do you mean that I should call him on this or her? LOL

I e-mail him because I need to be able to track the conversations and have a hard copy of his response.

[killer2021]

Honestly, just get the divorce and move on. I am sure 20 years down the road you'll be still talking about this stuff.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Sum1Else

We are in the midst of separation, soon to be divorce. We have a joint account (yeah I know but he has direct deposit going in there right now).

He put the child support etc into that account for me and I transferred it to my account except for $50 just in case I accidentally used the wrong card once. (To avoid overdraft fees).

I checked the account today. Lo and behold!!! It's overdrawn! He's made 3 purchases in the last week and overdrew it by just over $50. With the fees it will be $120 in the hole.

I sent him an e-mail because I can track our communication that way.

ALSO, his truck payment is in both of our names and cannot be refinanced. It is now 32 days late and they are calling me and unable to get in touch with him.

Now, would you forward said e-mail to his girlfriend? I'm so so so tempted but I don't know that it is ethical.

NOTE: I have our three children - 8, 8, 5. I make 1/4 what he does and only just received my first paycheck. The bills for us are all paid or have arrangements.

Why on earth would you email his GF. No no...you would make yourself look very very small. A definite no way on that.

You guys aren't even divorced yet and he has a girlfriend? Damn stupid of him.

And I agree with cpg - call the guy. Screw the "getting a copy". Geeeez. You need to get up with him worse than you need documentation. Record the conversation if you must, but CALL him.