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So just a little situation and I am interested in your opinions. My 'special friend' or SO and I are very excited to have met each other, we are in the beginning phase of our relationship and it's amazing. We are compatible on many levels except...politics.
I didn't think it was an issue, as we make jokes about it often. I would say we respect each other's views but I made a comment about the goverment and he's a police officer and didn't think my comment was very patriotic.
The discussion was not heated but we clearly disagree on the subject. I don't think we have to agree on everything and our respect for each other trumps our political beliefs. But I wonder if this will pose a problem as the relationship progresses.
I'm not sure I want to know but tell me anyway, what do you think...
So just a little situation and I am interested in your opinions. My 'special friend' or SO and I are very excited to have met each other, we are in the beginning phase of our relationship and it's amazing. We are compatible on many levels except...politics.
I didn't think it was an issue, as we make jokes about it often. I would say we respect each other's views but I made a comment about the goverment and he's a police officer and didn't think my comment was very patriotic.
The discussion was not heated but we clearly disagree on the subject. I don't think we have to agree on everything and our respect for each other trumps our political beliefs. But I wonder if this will pose a problem as the relationship progresses.
I'm not sure I want to know but tell me anyway, what do you think...
This is nothing minor, moonsavvy. I don't know how strong and how far out your own beliefs are, but you have a person living in a completely different reality on your hands... It's not only about politics at all. That colors all his views. People like this drive me insane. There's no way in hell I'd be with one of them...
You know, I read a lot of threads where people state flatly that their SO, whoever that is going to be, must be politically compatible. Whenever I hear that, I always think, "What a terribly sad point of view."
I mean, I'm not talking about extremes here such as Neo-Nazis or Eco Terrorists. But if you like somebody but refuse to take the relationship further because they happen to cancel your vote out in November, then you really look at others in an impoverished way. Why?
1) One's political views are only a part of who one is. Most of the time, it really isn't that big a part at all. And, quite frankly, show me a person who thinks about politics all the time, and I'll show you a really boring-ass person.
2) There's a presumption that your political views are 100% right, including your beliefs on economics, government, military affairs, education, social issues, science, and a host of other areas. Heck, I feel happy if I'm right 75% of the time.
3) By holding this stance, one hates being disagreed with. Well, nobody likes being told their wrong, but a healthy ego enjoys a good-natured debate of the issues. After all, well-meaning, intelligent people can disagree, right?
Mrs. CPG and I agree on a lot of things, but we also disagree on any number of issues. We know where each other stands on the issues. When we talk about it, it's an interesting airing of differences, but we just move on. It's what mature adults do.
As long as the respect is stronger than the desire to make him agree with you I see no problem.
My husband and I cancel out each other's vote all the time.
Our core values are compatable and I think that trumps politics anyday.
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
You know, I read a lot of threads where people state flatly that their SO, whoever that is going to be, must be politically compatible. Whenever I hear that, I always think, "What a terribly sad point of view."
I mean, I'm not talking about extremes here such as Neo-Nazis or Eco Terrorists. But if you like somebody but refuse to take the relationship further because they happen to cancel your vote out in November, then you really look at others in an impoverished way. Why?
1) One's political views are only a part of who one is. Most of the time, it really isn't that big a part at all. And, quite frankly, show me a person who thinks about politics all the time, and I'll show you a really boring-ass person.
2) There's a presumption that your political views are 100% right, including your beliefs on economics, government, military affairs, education, social issues, science, and a host of other areas. Heck, I feel happy if I'm right 75% of the time.
3) By holding this stance, one hates being disagreed with. Well, nobody likes being told their wrong, but a healthy ego enjoys a good-natured debate of the issues. After all, well-meaning, intelligent people can disagree, right?
Mrs. CPG and I agree on a lot of things, but we also disagree on any number of issues. We know where each other stands on the issues. When we talk about it, it's an interesting airing of differences, but we just move on. It's what mature adults do.
I'm sorry to burst your bubbles, folks, but a dumb, deaf, and blind government-supporting sheep and somebody believing in the so-called conspiracy theories CANNOT share anything other than perhaps no-talking-involved one-night stand or a short (perhaps vacation) sex fling.
Please note, I did not mention any party lines or canceling each other's (worthless anyway) votes.
I'm sorry to burst your bubbles, folks, but a dumb, deaf, and blind government-supporting sheep and somebody believing in the so-called conspiracy theories CANNOT share anything other than perhaps no-talking-involved one-night stand or a short (perhaps vacation) sex fling.
Please note, I did not mention any party lines or canceling each other's (worthless anyway) votes.
Well, as I said in my previous post, I do not include extremists on either side. Those people are typically beyond hope anyway. And the same things that make them wild-eyed fanatics make them terrible life partners anyway.
So just a little situation and I am interested in your opinions. My 'special friend' or SO and I are very excited to have met each other, we are in the beginning phase of our relationship and it's amazing. We are compatible on many levels except...politics.
I didn't think it was an issue, as we make jokes about it often. I would say we respect each other's views but I made a comment about the goverment and he's a police officer and didn't think my comment was very patriotic.
The discussion was not heated but we clearly disagree on the subject. I don't think we have to agree on everything and our respect for each other trumps our political beliefs. But I wonder if this will pose a problem as the relationship progresses.
I'm not sure I want to know but tell me anyway, what do you think...
This DOES NOT have to be a deal breaker "Mixed" marriages can and do work! Mine is one of them. When you truly love one another you figure out how to deal with the tough stuff
I was getting my nails done a couple of weeks ago when my nail lady's next client came in. She was an elderly lady. The three of us discussed a variety of things that included politics and our husbands. The elderly lady said that her husband would tell her how to think and how to vote. She would just "yes dear" him. During this election, he did as he always does - he handed her a slip of paper that she was to take into the polling booth with her. On this sli of paper were the choices he had marked down for her to vote on. She took the paper, as she always does, went into the booth and neatly folded it and tucked it away inside her purse and proceeded to vote HER WAY.
Personally, I could not live like that, allowing some man to think that he's laid down the law to me - but it apparently works for her and a lot of older folks.
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"Mixed" marriages can and do work! Mine is one of them. When you truly love one another you figure out how to deal with the tough stuff 
