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One of my friends has women throwing themselves at him wherever he goes while im with him and the girls act like im invisbile and im thinkign to myself how much easier things would be if i was good looking
Id trade places with him in a second to get that type of attention..And dont tell me its whats inside blah blah blah,neither men or women look at whats inside you when they first meet you there has to be some physical attraction to get your foot in the door..
Id love to se for one day how it is to be good looking rather then ugly or medicore or average whatever iam now where i have to hope 1 out of every 30 girls may like me..
One of life's realities is life is easier for pretty people. You just have to accept that and let it go.
This actually has a biological basis. Good looking people either have good genes that are resistent to environmental factors or have come though a good environment where their genes were not damaged. (the converse is not true BTW, ugly people can have good genes, you just know pretty ones do by looking at them) Part of what we percieve as beauty is symmetry and part of what makes us symmetrical is how the environment we grow up in impacts us. Malnutrition, illness, stress, etc, etc, etc... will affect how we develop and reduce the symmetry of our features. So, unfortunately, not pretty is equated to lower quality genes or damaged goods. Not always the case but you know the pretty person isn't damaged so they're attractive as a future mate.
I am somewhat jealous of good-looking people but, I worried more about when I was in my teens/early 20's. I do often wonder what it would be like if I was really handsome, hot, or whatever the term is.......I just try to maximize what I have to work with and, at the same time, strive to develop my character for the better. I suppose that no matter who you are, there'll always be those better looking, wealthier, better athletes, smarter, etc....than I am. I just have to accept it and take care of the things that are within my control.
I used to know a young guy who was so homely people pointed at him. Then I got my first real job and worked in the same office as he did. He was a right smart cookie, and I forgot how homely he was.
A few years later I went to work for him at his own business. He was making big bucks and a name for himself. I'm sure nobody noticed he was homely. It just didn't show through his self-confidence.
He went on to become CEO of a major metropolitan newspaper, then of a large chain of commercial broadcast stations, then of a major chain of banks, and finally of a credit card company. We're talking major multi-millionaire now -- yachts, mansions, the good life. And I'll bet he looks pretty darn good to anyone who meets him. The big ears and nose just add "character".
If you want to be jealous of someone's good looks, knock yourself out, but good looks are fleeting. The guys (and gals) who look good at 20 often don't at 40, and the ones who look homely at 20 sometimes look darned good at 30 or 40.
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention... he had a knock-out wife when I first met him. I could never figure out how he landed such a babe. I've since figured it out. Confidence. He oozed self-confidence.
I was one of those good-looking 20-year-olds, btw, but by 40 my waistline was getting thick and my hair was getting thin. But I attracted women at that age much more than I did in my youth. Again, I suspect it was self-confidence.
One of my friends has women throwing themselves at him wherever he goes while im with him and the girls act like im invisbile and im thinkign to myself how much easier things would be if i was good looking
Id trade places with him in a second to get that type of attention..And dont tell me its whats inside blah blah blah,neither men or women look at whats inside you when they first meet you there has to be some physical attraction to get your foot in the door..
Id love to se for one day how it is to be good looking rather then ugly or medicore or average whatever iam now where i have to hope 1 out of every 30 girls may like me..
How old are you? As long as you aren't ugly and have bad breath, you still have a good chance with the girls. Work on your confidence, charm and develop a sense of humour. Make them laugh and feel good about themselves, and they will flock around you also. Good looks only go so far. But obviously your good looking friend also has confidence and charm from having interacted with so many girls.
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....now where do I find some 80 year olds to hang out with so I look young by comparison????
