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My husband is 17 years older - and the age gap does matter. I won't go into it, but if I had it to do all over again, I would choose to remain single.
I saw a gal briefly who was 17 years younger than me -- an office romance. The age issue bothered me, but I fell hard. She was 20s and a party hound; I was 40s and semi-retired. She said she always preferred older guys and in fact ended up with another guy about my age.
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Originally Posted by SandyCo
Whatever works for other people, but for me, I'd go five years younger or ten years older. Actually, the older I get, the less I want someone ten years older!
I'm 10 years older than my wife. The older I get the less I want someone who's my age!
Seriously, when I was 30 I'd have never considered a gal who was 20. I don't think that changed until I fell for the gal 17 years younger than me. After that, 10 years younger felt okay.
My wife and I joke about our age difference, but it's really not an issue.
Age is important as it relates to where you are in your life. I'd prefer not to get involved with anyone who is still building their life, figuring out who they are, etc. Similarly, I am not interested in someone who feels like they've done everything and are too settled. Most folks in their 30s, very few in their 20s...would fit. I'm 33.
I'm not sure where this formula came from, but somewhere it was decreed that the guy halves his age and adds 7. That's supposed to be the minimum age for his girl. So, when he's 20, the youngest girlfriend he could have would be 17......... when he's 30, she's at least 22 ........ etc.
Using this formula, when I'm 80, I can chase a hot 47 year old.
I'm not sure where this formula came from, but somewhere it was decreed that the guy halves his age and adds 7. That's supposed to be the minimum age for his girl. So, when he's 20, the youngest girlfriend he could have would be 17......... when he's 30, she's at least 22 ........ etc.
Using this formula, when I'm 80, I can chase a hot 47 year old.
Sounds good to me. The only problem is, at 47 she'll still be able to run, but we'll only be able to shuffle.
yea major factor. +/- 5 years otherwise you are abnormal. Seeing a 30 year old with a 22 year old is just DISGUSTING. Seriously.
I have been both May and December. A responce like this hints at a deep seeded resentment. Perhaps a girl/guy you liked wrongly IYO, went for an older person...AND NOT YOU?
Many girls like older guys. The maturity level reachs a closer match 5-7 years out...in some cases.
Many older woman peak around 35-40 and find insatiable young men fill a need? Not only that, but since they're YDFofC the woman can lead and guide. Whereas a equal age gal might not want to bruise his ego?
"DISGUSTING" suggests very strong feelings about this simple issue that really shouldn't since it's THEIR lives, and not yours.
yea major factor. +/- 5 years otherwise you are abnormal. Seeing a 30 year old with a 22 year old is just DISGUSTING. Seriously.
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This coming from the guy that is against statutory rape laws being enforced? lol You must be younger than 30 and not happy with 30 year old men poaching on your territory of young and underage women. Oh the irony of your post!!
I've always said subtract 4 years off a guys age and you'll get his actual age. I've certainly been proven wrong *eyeroll* but generally it's a pretty safe rule. I prefer a guy to be at least 4 years older than me... my ex boyfriend who I dated for 6 years is 9 years older than me. I'm 26 and he's 35... We started dating when I was 19 and he was 28... I had no idea... He looked like he was maybe 24.
My current boyfriend is 4 years older and a perfect fit in so many ways....
I feel that the age gap is irrelevant. It completely depends on the individuals involved. Every couple is different. What works for one couple, may not work for another one. More important factors to me would be have similar spiritual beliefs, common values and life goals, and similar IQ and intellect and education, treating each other as equals... which helps greatly when raising a family. Plus sharing the same interests so that the couple always enjoys their time together.
People are sexual and have sexual urges. They are going to go with whatever fits the period they are in. If they want to have a one nighter than age has less to do with it as long as its not a 50>above with someone in their 20s or early 30s. For serious relationships age or physique shouldn't be important normally though physique is to most people.
My husband is 17 years older - and the age gap does matter. I won't go into it, but if I had it to do all over again, I would choose to remain single.
You CAN do it again. If you are unhappy then stop what you are currently doing and get a divorce.
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