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So, a few days ago, my husband set up a Facebook profile. Within a day, he had befriended his ex-fiance and they've been IM'ing and sending emails back and forth.
He told me that he wouldn't talk to her if I didn't want him to, but I don't want to be that kind of person (telling him what he can and can't do). But, at the same time, I'm pretty annoyed by the whole situation. Supposedly things ended on a bad note for them, so I don't really understand why he'd want to reconnect with her now.
Just curious what others' take on this situation might be.
So, a few days ago, my husband set up a Facebook profile. Within a day, he had befriended his ex-fiance and they've been IM'ing and sending emails back and forth.
He told me that he wouldn't talk to her if I didn't want him to, but I don't want to be that kind of person (telling him what he can and can't do). But, at the same time, I'm pretty annoyed by the whole situation. Supposedly things ended on a bad note for them, so I don't really understand why he'd want to reconnect with her now.
Just curious what others' take on this situation might be.
I would say there shouldn't be any reason that is needs to talk to her unless they had children together. Clearly it bothers you and he shouldn't talk to her out of respect for you.
I already have my own account and we're listed as married... all that good stuff. I've had mine set up for a while now. One of our friends tagged me in a picture from her wedding. His ex saw the last name and asked in the comment section if I was married to him. I said something to him about it, and he set up an account the next day.
To be fair, he had talked about setting up a page to stay in touch w/friends and family from our hometown. But, I guess the timing just seems like a big coincidence.
I already have my own account and we're listed as married... all that good stuff. I've had mine set up for a while now. One of our friends tagged me in a picture from her wedding. His ex saw the last name and asked in the comment section if I was married to him. I said something to him about it, and he set up an account the next day.
To be fair, he had talked about setting up a page to stay in touch w/friends and family from our hometown. But, I guess the timing just seems like a big coincidence.
Even better! Just send her a friend request and be her cyber BFF If anything is going on it will be hard to have much energy with you looking over their shoulder!
It might not be too soon to mention to hubby that it bothers you just a bit.
I wouldn't be too concerned unless it drags on. I get an email every year or two from my ex-fiancee and I always answer it. I'd write to her more often, but I don't want her to start getting ideas that I'm interested, plus I don't think my wife would appreciate it.
They have a history, apparently liked each other in the past, and I think it's only natural to wonder how each is doing. Like I wonder how my ex's mother is doing. And I wanted to let her know that my parents both passed away. *shrugs* A little contact now and then isn't a bad thing, but it shouldn't go past that.
He definitely knows that I'm not thrilled w/him chatting with her. I'm trying not to act psycho or anything... unfortunately, I can be petty and passive aggressive (but, hey, at least I'm honest about it ). So, I'm trying to downplay things a little, and I guess it's not really working. I just don't get it... I was previously engaged too, and I have absolutely no desire to contact him for any reason; let alone carry on a 3-day chat.
And as far as befriending her? That's not gonna happen... please refer to the previous paragraph where I mention I'm petty.
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). So, I'm trying to downplay things a little, and I guess it's not really working. I just don't get it... I was previously engaged too, and I have absolutely no desire to contact him for any reason; let alone carry on a 3-day chat. 
