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Eh, I don't agree with the blanket "dump her" statement. There's too many other factors to consider, 14 years is a loonngg time for a non serious gf/bf relationship. I'll take the keep her if she agrees to work on whatever caused the problem, in the mean time being as open with you as possible and not keeping email/txt secrets from you.
A gf of 14 years? Isn't that a long enough time to decide if you want to marry this person or not? Good thing you didn't. She still texts and emails the guy? Tell her to take a hike seriously.
Don't be manipulated by the time spent with this person to keep you from leaving her.
A gf of 14 years? Isn't that a long enough time to decide if you want to marry this person or not? Good thing you didn't. She still texts and emails the guy? Tell her to take a hike seriously.
Don't be manipulated by the time spent with this person to keep you from leaving her.
Until we know more details it could be - 13.5 years of being completely faithful, until the feeling of "this relationship is going nowhere" gnaws at her completely and she falters one emotional night (with a prince charming whispering in her ear).
It could also be 14 years of her secretly cheating, until the OP finds out a decade and a half later.
Heck, it could also be the OP cheated numerous times throughout the relationship and this is her "revenge" guy.
So I definitely don't agree with blanket "ditch that bi*tch bro!" statements. I think people need to stand up for her as well and try to get the rest of the story out, as something seems off about this story..
Until we know more details it could be - 13.5 years of being completely faithful, until the feeling of "this relationship is going nowhere" gnaws at her completely and she falters one emotional night (with a prince charming whispering in her ear).
It could also be 14 years of her secretly cheating, until the OP finds out a decade and a half later.
Heck, it could also be the OP cheated numerous times throughout the relationship and this is her "revenge" guy.
So I definitely don't agree with blanket "ditch that bi*tch bro!" statements. I think people need to stand up for her as well and try to get the rest of the story out, as something seems off about this story..
WAY too many assumptions. Also I don't agree with sticking up for someone who cheated no matter what the excuse is. If you're unhappy then break off the relationship.
My girl friend of 14 years just told me she slept with another guy,plus she text/email the guy, I love her but this is drivin me crazy.any advice.??
14 years?
Should of put a ring on it. I don't know many that would stick around as just a girlfriend for 14 years. Maybe thats why she cheated. Its crappy that she cheated. But its also crappy you kept her as just a girlfriend for a decade and a half almost if she wanted more than that.
Eh, I don't agree with the blanket "dump her" statement. There's too many other factors to consider, 14 years is a loonngg time for a non serious gf/bf relationship. I'll take the keep her if she agrees to work on whatever caused the problem, in the mean time being as open with you as possible and not keeping email/txt secrets from you.
I agree with being opposed to the blanket "dump her" statement too, but for me personally: trust is too important to me. After being cheated on (which I never have been to my knowledge), I can't see myself trusting that person every again. That would sure make it hard to have a loving relationship with someone.
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Originally Posted by Opsimathia
14 years?
Should of put a ring on it. I don't know many that would stick around as just a girlfriend for 14 years. Maybe thats why she cheated. Its crappy that she cheated. But its also crappy you kept her as just a girlfriend for a decade and a half almost if she wanted more than that.
Since we don't know any other details, you can't really make that judgment. It's attitudes like yours that prevent quality men from putting rings on fingers. Who would want to be stuck with a woman that felt she was entitled to a ring simply because she stuck around for 10 years? What if he "put a ring on it" and she cheated anyway? Then would you say "shouldn't have put a ring on it?"
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