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Just got news that two of my closest friends are moving away in the summer and late spring (one out of the country) and I can't stop crying..I've been single for so long and I'm just terrified at the thought of being alone period. I know that change is good but I feel like my world is ending
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It's a lucky person who has friends who will be around him or her until they die...in this era it's easy enough to keep in contact with them, and you can always visit. Dust yourself up and go make some more friends, add to the network of friends you already have! :-)
The fact that you are single affords you the opportunity to get out and meet new people. If you were married and lonely, you'd have a problem.
Keep in mind, your friends will be in the same boat as you. They are moving someplace new and will have to make new friends, so chances are they will be feeling the same separation anxiety you are going through.
Do something that can get you out and into situations where you can meet people...take a college course, take dance lessons or some other classes, volunteer work, or some sort of club in your area.
It's easier said than done, at 25 most of the new people I come into contact with or more than likely going to fall into the associates category since most people have their set group of friends by that age already. What makes it worse is that the one going out of the country is someone that I am in love with (my ex).
I thought you were like 40 or 50 years old or older from your first post. You're only 25! Get out and do things, live life and meet new people. Some of the best friends Ive made were through either work, the gym, martial arts classes, dance classes, or through joining groups like hiking groups, running groups, photography groups etc.
If the one guy is your "EX" and you are still in love with him, then why is he your "EX" and not "current" bf?
Just got news that two of my closest friends are moving away in the summer and late spring (one out of the country) and I can't stop crying..I've been single for so long and I'm just terrified at the thought of being alone period. I know that change is good but I feel like my world is ending
People change, life changes and friends come and go. You should be happy for your friends that they are going to get a chance to live in a different part of the country, and out of the country. This is called maturing and growing. Now you have two new places to visit at some point.
Don't be sad....make some new friends, stay in touch with your old friends. It is possible to stay in touch. I left some very dear friends up in Maine when I divorced my husband and to this day, we are in touch and have visited back and forth. Make the effort...it is well worth it.
I guess it's just the shock of hearing everything at once, I am happy for them but will miss them terribly. My ex is leaving because he has a business to run in home country and my gf just got into a reputable law school and will more than likely stay there..it's only 4 hrs away but still depressing. Not only that but there's so much goiong on around me, my brother just got married and is having his baby this summer, my sister is graduating from college and I just feel stagnant.
KMG - embrace your singleness!!! You have something so valuable and you don't even know it! Get out there and do things - meet people - get involved! Live your life!
I guess it's just the shock of hearing everything at once, I am happy for them but will miss them terribly. My ex is leaving because he has a business to run in home country and my gf just got into a reputable law school and will more than likely stay there..it's only 4 hrs away but still depressing. Not only that but there's so much goiong on around me, my brother just got married and is having his baby this summer, my sister is graduating from college and I just feel stagnant.
This seems to be what your real problem is. Do something, any something that will engage and excite you. Everybody around you is in motion and you are standing still. Sounds a lot like less a social problem than a vocational or avocational problem. And by the way, if you think getting yourself in motion, on either fronts, is difficult now, wait! The worst is yet to come.
KMG - embrace your singleness!!! You have something so valuable and you don't even know it! Get out there and do things - meet people - get involved! Live your life!
Been there, done that..I've had alot of fun but I'm over it and want to settle down.
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