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Yes. He's impatient with most people and doesn't give anybody an opportunity to explain themselves. He jumps the gun a lot of times without knowing what's going on, thereby making him look like an ass when it turns out he flipped out for no reason. This, of course, embarrasses me to no end.
There are also no gray area with him. Our marriage, for example - we're either happy-go-lucky without a care in the world, or we're getting divorced. There is no counseling - at least not for him. He's too smart for that. He's not about to pay some talking head to tell him what he already knows - that I'm the crazy one. Nope, not him. He is a highly educated, very successful attorney who is also an adjunct professor at the law school of a highly rated California university in the bay area.
If I say no to him when he asks (tells) me to do something, all hell breaks loose and it's time for a divorce. I made up with him last week because we had plans for the weekend that included our son and I thought it best to not be mad at each other for the weekend. It was a lot of tears and groveling on my part, which I truly resent. Then I went to a new marriage counselor by myself. Of course, when we were fighting last week and I brought up counseling he had a spazz attack. So I kept the appointment and went alone. When he found out that I had seen a counselor after we made up, he started to get angry and said "We're fixed now, why are you needlessly spending money on something we clearly don't need? We don't have any problems and I don't want you spending money on that crap." He is truly clueless, yet I can't talk to him because if I do, he gets mad. Just because I did all the apologizing and made up with him, doesn't mean that there's not a lot of resentment and bad feelings built up inside of me. This isn't "fixed"!!! Just because I'm hiding it, doesn't mean it's not there.
Him yelling at the guys today really brought all of this up again. I haven't said anything, and he's out golfing now, but it really pissed me off.
I am sorry to hear abut your troubled marriage. My marriage was very lonely, empty and angry toward the end. He did me a favor by having an affair because I never would have left. This is a good reminder of why I need to embrace my singlehood.
Yes. He's impatient with most people and doesn't give anybody an opportunity to explain themselves. He jumps the gun a lot of times without knowing what's going on, thereby making him look like an ass when it turns out he flipped out for no reason. This, of course, embarrasses me to no end.
He sounds very angry. Let me guess. His father (or possibly his mother maybe both) never loved him. Never thought he was good enough. So what if you are an attorney. You're still not good enough. He's angry. Angry at his parents because no matter what he did, he was still ignored (or possibly not as good as his "older/younger" sibling).
Now he cannot be happy because he feels like a failure because he could not get his/her/their love. He hates himself for it. Hates the world. So much anger. He must be suffering terribly.
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Originally Posted by 20yrsinBranson
He sounds very angry. Let me guess. His father (or possibly his mother maybe both) never loved him. Never thought he was good enough. So what if you are an attorney. You're still not good enough. He's angry. Angry at his parents because no matter what he did, he was still ignored (or possibly not as good as his "older/younger" sibling).
Now he cannot be happy because he feels like a failure because he could not get his/her/their love. He hates himself for it. Hates the world. So much anger. He must be suffering terribly.
He sounds very angry. Let me guess. His father (or possibly his mother maybe both) never loved him. Never thought he was good enough. So what if you are an attorney. You're still not good enough. He's angry. Angry at his parents because no matter what he did, he was still ignored (or possibly not as good as his "older/younger" sibling).
Now he cannot be happy because he feels like a failure because he could not get his/her/their love. He hates himself for it. Hates the world. So much anger. He must be suffering terribly.
20yrsinBranson
Well, actually, his parents (his father passed away years ago) worship the ground he walks on. He could do no wrong.
Yes I enjoy being married. Absolutely love it. Why? Because I was single for 17 years and missed having a woman in my life.
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