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Not that I'm going to actually do what people vote here but I'm curious. You know my situation. You know things have not been getting better with my husband. You know I want a divorce. He wants to go back into counseling. I don't see the point. What say ye?
If you are sure you want a divorce, counseling will do no good. For any type of counseling to work, you both have to be willing to do the work. [and make no mistake, it's work!] But if you are ready and set to move on, that's that.
The only value you may find is to be open to learn what happened in your relationship from his view point. You and he may get some closure. Again, if you want a divorce closure could be your objective. If that's the case be sure to be honest about your participation in the counseling.
There's really not a "right" or "wrong" answer here. You must do what's best for you.
Take care of yourself.
From what I've seen of your posts, I don't think any amount of counseling will help you get past your trust issues with your husband. If you haven't forgiven him by now, I doubt you will.
If you don`t think that your marriage is going to work, then forget the counseling, and get to living your life.
It sounds like your heart has been broken beyond repair. Move on. Good luck!
Not that I'm going to actually do what people vote here but I'm curious. You know my situation. You know things have not been getting better with my husband. You know I want a divorce. He wants to go back into counseling. I don't see the point. What say ye?
If you really know already your marriage is done, just let him know. I really think our "internal voice" always has an answer when we face important situations.
I personally think counseling should be required before any wedding or divorce, but if both people aren't willing to open their minds to it, I can't imagine what good it would do.
my first thought was (though Ive never been myself) counselling isn't going to help. Then I read that you've been once and it didn't. I doubt 2nd time will help either, however, if you'd like to go to be able to say you did all you could to try, that would be the only reason. But maybe that's a waste of time. I don't know your situation, could U tell it briefly or I could read it on your previous posts/ threads. What's he done?
I am not sure about marriage counseling but I am 100% in favor of parents going to counseling to learn how to coparent effectively...
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