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I'm 23 years old and I seem to find women who are in their 26's, 40's , and 30's years more attractive and hot than people my age.
Is it normal for someone my age to like older woman?
Do you guys ever feel the same ?
If you understand yourself and are comfortable with who YOU are, get rid of the idea of "normal." All it does is create a bad feeling about being "not normal." If you and the woman are fine with the age difference, no big deal. My wife was older than me, but we connected in so many ways that the age difference was less important than hairstyle.
Whose definition of *normal* are you going to use? Your own? Someone else who doesn't know you? Someone else who should have no affect on how you live your life? Society in general? Mature adults live their lives making their own decisions without regard to what random strangers on a public forum think or what society in general deems appropriate.
Not really. When I was in my early twenties, I was interested and hooking up with women around my age (+/- 2 years)
Rumor has it.. older women are more 'open/less picky', ergo, easier to hookup with (maybe, it has something to do with maturity) idk
I think, its normal for a guy your age to find any woman (regardless of age) attractive.
OMG. We are soooooooooooooooo much more picky than 20somethings, LOL.
We do not take ANYBODY'S crap. And generally (I'm sure there must be exceptions), we don't hang onto "maybe we can hang tonight...if my friend doesn't like drop by or whatever...we can watch Netflix" with the promise of stale microwave popcorn and a bed with unwashed sheets...because ooo ooo ooo, maybe then he'll say he LIKES me!
We're actually pretty damned demanding. And we don't have to settle for you. We have vibrators. And really developed imaginations.
I'm well aware of what the fantasy is, though, LOL. And SOME of it is true...like being comfortable in our own bodies...ahem.
But you gotta work for it.
Sorry fellas!
Back to the OP's lament:
Okay, OP, first of all, if you're looking to date an older woman, DO NOT MENTION THAT SHE'S OLDER. DO NOT MENTION THAT SHE'S MATURE. RESPONSIBLE. THAT SHE "ISN'T LIKE THE AIRHEADED YOUNGER GIRLS." THAT YOU LOVE MATURITY. Don't. Do. Not. Do to the Not. Don't mention age. Full stop.
Mention HER. You love her eyes. You love her smile. She's funny...you like that. Would she like to go for coffee some time?
Then go from there.
If a woman feels like she's a fetish, a bucket list square or a curiosity fulfillment, dollars to donuts she will not go out with you.
OMG. We are soooooooooooooooo much more picky than 20somethings, LOL.
We do not take ANYBODY'S crap. And generally (I'm sure there must be exceptions), we don't hang onto "maybe we can hang tonight...if my friend doesn't like drop by or whatever...we can watch Netflix" with the promise of stale microwave popcorn and a bed with unwashed sheets...because ooo ooo ooo, maybe then he'll say he LIKES me!
We're actually pretty damned demanding. And we don't have to settle for you. We have vibrators. And really developed imaginations.
I'm well aware of what the fantasy is, though, LOL. And SOME of it is true...like being comfortable in our own bodies...ahem.
But you gotta work for it.
Sorry fellas!
Back to the OP's lament:
Okay, OP, first of all, if you're looking to date an older woman, DO NOT MENTION THAT SHE'S OLDER. DO NOT MENTION THAT SHE'S MATURE. RESPONSIBLE. THAT SHE "ISN'T LIKE THE AIRHEADED YOUNGER GIRLS." THAT YOU LOVE MATURITY. Don't. Do. Not. Do to the Not. Don't mention age. Full stop.
Mention HER. You love her eyes. You love her smile. She's funny...you like that. Would she like to go for coffee some time?
Then go from there.
If a woman feels like she's a fetish, a bucket list square or a curiosity fulfillment, dollars to donuts she will not go out with you.
Good luck!
Are there some that are more laid back and romantic?
Are there some that are more laid back and romantic?
I'm all that but laid back and romantic.
But married...
I'm thinking by "laid back" you actually mean "will say yes no matter what" and "thrilled to get some from a younger guy" or maybe "grateful," etc.?
Not as easy to find, probably. Maybe try cougarlife.com? I have to imagine those girls are expecting lots of tongue-wagging "oh teach me, older lady"-type dates. (Blargh, not for me, though. I can't imagine anyone over the age of 14 needing to be taught so boyfriend please. )
But otherwise, nope, women of all ages want to be treated like people and wooed...generally. There's no "easy way out," not even for us pathetic old types who should be damned grateful. You still have to treat us like humans...you still have to develop something...or of course there's always "3AM at the airport bar" route. But that type of desperation isn't exclusive to over-40s.
Now if by "laid back and romantic" you mean actually laid back, like jeans and bare feet and some candles and soft talk, sure, why not?
I'm thinking by "laid back" you actually mean "will say yes no matter what" and "thrilled to get some from a younger guy" or maybe "grateful," etc.?
Not as easy to find, probably. Maybe try cougarlife.com? I have to imagine those girls are expecting lots of tongue-wagging "oh teach me, older lady"-type dates. (Blargh, not for me, though. I can't imagine anyone over the age of 14 needing to be taught so boyfriend please. )
But otherwise, nope, women of all ages want to be treated like people and wooed...generally. There's no "easy way out," not even for us pathetic old types who should be damned grateful. You still have to treat us like humans...you still have to develop something...or of course there's always "3AM at the airport bar" route. But that type of desperation isn't exclusive to over-40s.
Now if by "laid back and romantic" you mean actually laid back, like jeans and bare feet and some candles and soft talk, sure, why not?
Sure. I guess if they are open minded and a sweetheart.
I don't think I ever expected anyone to say yes to everything cuz I don't even do that myself.
I tend to get along much better with someone whos open minded and a sweetheart
I wouldn't worry about it. You like what you like. Might be a phase, or not. Why should it matter.
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And we don't have to settle for you. We have vibrators. And really developed imaginations.
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