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I have NEVER been involved in one. I have always warded off advances in the workplace. I make a good reliable lunch or "walk around the corner for coffee" friend.
That being said, I'm finding out that at my current, and previous places of work, there have been numerous affairs....more than I thought would have been the case. Do most of these end badly (poor work performance, tarnished reputation, dismissal, etc.) or do most people just get over it? Are they common or just good water cooler talk material? What are your thoughts?
I've been in one before and luckily it ended on a good note but I'll never do it again, ever.
It ended good but there is alot of ways it can blow up in your face pretty bad.
For example, if she gets pissed she'll just file sexual harassment claim. Most companies will fire you just because they don't want to get sued themselves. That or they'll get you pretty bad, regardless if the claim is true or not.
If you knew what was good for you then you would avoid at all costs.
I am sure there are dozens of stories of how it blew up in people's faces.
I did worked in telemarketing for years and it was sales managers screwing the TM's every chance they got; reality TV material. So, no, I wouldn't recommend it.
The people I know who have dated their coworkers believe that a chance for true love is far more important than any one job. I think there is some logic to this. What is the man or woman of your dreams just happened to be your coworker and he/she was lost to you because of the rule you set saying you will not get close to another person at work?
I understand what can happen if the work connected love affair goes bad, but jobs come and go but the chances of meeting someone who can be a life changing true love do not happen all the time. I say, go for it!
I recall a survey where about 3% of work related relationships ended really badly. That sounds particularly low, but before the age of the internet, about 1/3 of people met someone through work.
Office affairs are extremely common and when you realize how common it is you will realize most don't end badly. Unfortunately you only hear about the bad endings.
The key if your married is to only get involved with another married woman because then you both have something to lose and it will stay discreet. If your single then you can go with whoever you want.
They are disasters 99.5% of the time. I've never been involved in one, but I've seen lots of them start and end. Makes for some pretty awkward staff meetings.
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