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After my divorce, I definitely did not want a long-term relationship for a good three or four years at least. In fact, in the first year after my divorce, I didn't want to date at all ... period.
After a divorce, is a women more likely to want to have another long-term relationship or would she rather have more short term ones?
Depends on the situation. I had young child, and I was quite happy focusing on just that, for several years. When I did start dating, my goal was always a long-term relationship. I think most women aim for that at some point, not all, but most.
After my first divorce definately short term. This time around more long term but not like I want to get married or even a really serious relationship.
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After my 19 year marriage ended I didn't want a relationship, period--long or short. It took two years then and 13 years post divorce, I still don't want to get married.
Depends how the divorce came about. If it was a loveless marriage with a long-overdue divorce they might be ready to jump back in and see where things go.
If it's a bitter "surprise" divorce then well...it could take a long time to recover from.
No one answer.
However, you need to be slow and prudent when dealing with anybody....especially if you\they have somewhat recent trauma.
I was married 10 years when my ex moved out. It took 3 loooong, painful years to finalize the divorce. I swore I didn't want to date. My friends kept telling me how perfect a mutual friend was for me. They kept telling him the same thing. Within 6 weeks of my first husband moving out, I went on my first date very reluctantly. We dated for the next 3 years, all throughout my divorce, and I married him 3 months to the day after my divorce was final. We have been married for 9 wonderful years. I wouldn't change a thing.
After a divorce, is a women more likely to want to have another long-term relationship or would she rather have more short term ones?
When my husband and I separted, I had no desire to date at all. I think it would have take me a few years and then I'd take it slowly. I don't think I'd ever have married again.
Depends how the divorce came about. If it was a loveless marriage with a long-overdue divorce they might be ready to jump back in and see where things go.
If it's a bitter "surprise" divorce then well...it could take a long time to recover from.
Mine was a combination of both, and I was ready to get out and start dating right away. Now that I am, I think I wasn't ready at all, so I'm pulling back a bit. I think what I really wanted was to see if I'm still attractive to the opposite sex--I was married for so long.
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After a long (20+ years) of a pretty crummy marriage, I left. I dated within 6 months but nothing serious. Then I met and fell hard for a great, kind and soulful man who died unexpectedly. After that, dating was mighty difficult. Even now, 9 years later, I have very little interest in a long term, permanent relationship. I think I am destined to be alone (well, with some dates here and there) for the rest of my life. I do envy those who have found their soul mates tho! Never take it for granted.
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