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While you're checking public records, maybe you should look for a divorce decree. Like others stated, he may still be married. It's rare that one lie stands alone, usually it is accompanied by other lies.
While you're checking public records, maybe you should look for a divorce decree. Like others stated, he may still be married. It's rare that one lie stands alone, usually it is accompanied by other lies.
Yes, but if he's already covered up his previous marriage, why would she want to know anything else?
I'd say under the circumstances, you really don't know this guy at all. You really don't know anything about him - whether he's told you the truth or whether everything he's told you are manufactured lies. I understand you are hurt - who wouldn't be! But you did the right thing. The guy cannot be trusted and you cannot build a future on lies. If you can, block his ability to text, phone, email, or otherwise contact you in any way. Do not contact him, do not have anything more to do with him. You owe him nothing. Move forward and don't look back. The guy is a creep. He may even have other girlfriends on the string. Silence and no contact is your best option. He is the quitter, loser and the liar - not you.
Yes, but if he's already covered up his previous marriage, why would she want to know anything else?
Good point. Run run run away. So many problems can come about from this, it would be difficult to list them all. If they are in a community property state, he can't even sell it without her consent and paying her off for her interest. Also, if they were divorced, they would have already changed the title on the property (normally).
Another thing, the way he turned it around, calling you a quitter, would usually mean there is more he is trying to hide since he is trying to change the subject. This whole thing is sending up alarm bells. Walk away and chalk it up as a life experience.
Didn't she say she went out there and met his family? I imagine if she stayed at said house, she would have found some signs of a wife/womans touch?
Yes, this is what is unclear.
And, currently it is harder for people to split assets with plunging house values or when one contributed more to the real estate than the other... Some separations are very messy...
NOT saying that his cover-up is justified. It he had those kind of financial problems, why not to tell the OP? The way he was covering up, there is something more to it than just the financial troubles.
Well there was a record above that with only his name on the deed and him being the sole owner on the property. Also, A few mentioned that he was probably seeing girls on the side.....now I know girls can be naive and want to think the best of guys they're dating and i know anything is possible but I honestly don't think he was fooling around. The amount that we talked, i just don't know how it'd be possible. Regardless, I didn't get rid of him because I suspected cheating, I got rid of him because of all the others who made the same point. If he lied about this, what else is there? How many other half truths are there? The fact that he thought it was ok to not tell me this bit of information is insane. Had he told me from the very beginning it wouldn't have been an issue. We all have a past, myself included which he seemed to accept. Why he thought I wouldn't have done the same for him is beyond me. Whatever, it's over and you're all right, i'll move on and learn from it. I guess I just wanted to know if there was a different way that I should be looking at it. Given i am "only" 27, I know others have lived and loved a lot more than I have and have learned things that I may have not yet. Thank you all so much.
Didn't she say she went out there and met his family? I imagine if she stayed at said house, she would have found some signs of a wife/womans touch?
She said the house was rented out, so it's unlikely she ever saw it. I'm surprised when she met his family, no one let it slip that he was married. Perhaps, if the OP thinks back, maybe there were clues from his family that she didn't pick up on at the time.
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