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Hello everyone. I'm just taking a moment to vent. I'm madly in love with my best friend. We met, i professed my feelings a couple months later, he rejected me, everything was okay. Then a couple months later he decided he wanted to have sex, but just as friends. I decided to give it a shot. We had sex several times over the next few months, but no more than a couple times a month. My feelings, of course, developed and became stronger. his didn't. We stopped having sex. We continued to sleep together and cuddle. Then that stopped, because he thinks I need to get over him (which I do). My struggle is that I can't get over him. I see him every day (we're neighbors, and I'm working for him). I don't want to give up our friendship in order to get over him. I also don't understand why we ever had sex in the first place, or why we stopped having sex. And now I live in a state of confusion whenever I see him (not confusion about his feelings now, as he has made those clear, but his feelings in the past). I have hope for the future, but I intellectually recognize it's hope that is going to be unfulfilled. I'm trying to get my emotions to catch up to my intellect. Anyway, I just wanted to complain. Thanks for listening!
He took advantage of your feelings for him and used you for sex. If he cared, he would have kept it in his pants so that he didn't confuse you. Move on, he's using you.
That is a very difficult and sticky circumstance. I feel for you because I have been in a similar situation.
It is very hard to move on but you need to do so in the safest, most effective, and most caring way possible. If it is possible to remain somewhat of a platonic friend then let it be.
Then a couple months later he decided he wanted to have sex, but just as friends
He blatantly TOLD you that he only wanted friends with benefits. Yet you ignored it. It is your own fault. If you didn't want to get your feelings hurt you should have said no to a friends with benefit relationship.
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He took advantage of your feelings for him and used you for sex. If he cared, he would have kept it in his pants so that he didn't confuse you. Move on, he's using you.
Not really, since she agreed to it. That's like me agreeing to buy a car for 5,000 and then saying the car dealer took advantage of me for selling me the car...
He blatantly TOLD you that he only wanted friends with benefits. Yet you ignored it. It is your own fault. If you didn't want to get your feelings hurt you should have said no to a friends with benefit relationship.
Not really, since she agreed to it. That's like me agreeing to buy a car for 5,000 and then saying the car dealer took advantage of me for selling me the car...
True. He was honest about not having feelings for her. When he asked for sex, she should have reminded him that they were just friends.
I think the OP short changed herself and set both people up for a miserable adventure. First, why would you accept less than what you desired? Kind of like wanting to be dressed and going out half naked. Not what you hoped for and leaves you feeling deflated since what you got was not what you wanted. The guy in the picture was honest, other motives I may suspect but he was honest. Do both of you a favor and put distance along with some perspective into this situation. He may have thought he was doing you a favor [?] and you were perhaps hoping to get something more. Neither ends were accomplished so time to cut your losses and move on. But do be gentle with yourself-you made a jump for the brass ring and it just didn't work out this time. Better luck next time
I agree that he has been nothing but honest, hence why I'm not at all pissed at him. He told me what he wanted, and a part of me hoped it would lead to more, and it didn't, and I take full responsibility for my share of the mess. I'm just attempting to get over him while preserving our friendship, which is very special to me. Difficult..... but hopefully possible
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