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A Professor attacked my 16 yr daughter after messing with her head for a year. I feel like cutting his throat and balls off but my daughter needs me. Both should go to therapy because it could get worse if she does nothing about it. He should go because he cannot control himself and she needs help because she should not accept being pushed around as acceptable.
That is what people outside of this situation generally fail to understand. It is not her choice. She has been broken down so that she no longer has the ability to make choices. It is impoissible to understand people whohave been mentally destroyed until you work with them, or become one. It is a horrible situation. Basically this is like saying tha an abused child is at fault becuase they do not move out, or contact child protective services on their own.
It's usually the people who know nothing claiming to know it all. These are the people who blame the victim for the abuse and, in the same breath, jump all over them for not reporting it. Stupid.
It is a choice, yes. You can choose to stay and take the beatings or leave and die. There is nothing scarier than an abuser who has lost control over his victim.
Some of you would benefit from actually educating yourselves so when you spew forth something with such conviction, you can actually back it up.
I disagree. I think many abusive men do love their mate/victim. They just don't know how (or want) to control their very bad behavior.
I am sorry but abuse is not love. I dont care if its a parent or if its a spouse. they may like their victim, but only enough to want to control them and abuse them.
thats like saying everytime an man hits hit girlfriend he is saying, "I love you"...that is a load of bull
As I tell my daughter a couple of times a year, a man who hits, pushes, or threatens you is not a man who loves you--no matter how many nice things he says or how many sweet gestures he makes afterwards. The first time a man uses force in his dealings with you, simply walk out and never look back. Call me up, and I'll be there, and woe be unto the guy that lays anything besides a gentle hand on her.
The first time it happens, it's his fault. After that, it's as much her fault for allowing it.
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