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Hmmmm......right up to this moment I would occassionally ask myself, do I spend to much time on the net? But now after reading your post you have made me not look so hard or concern myself as much! I only say that in observation of you having 3 dates generated off of the internet in 1 night! I wish you well and all the luck in he world
First off, sorry about the way your Saturday night ended up. I'm just playing the devils advocate here, but it seems like you are not attracting the right guys from internet dating. I met a few women on Match and Yahoo dating sites and while it didn't work out I knew they were honest and open based on our intial exchanges.
When you say things like
"they dont even attempt to try to make anything happen even with someone they know can go into any bar and get a man with the snap of a finger. Guess you internet men are [mod cut] language scary little cats "
I wonder if they are regular guys getting cold feet when they sense your attitude? Instead of trying to raise your market value by eliciting jealousy out of them, show some interest in getting to know them. It's one thing to come across as independent and comfortable in your own skin but another to act like you don't need them and can get any guy you want. The later usually backfires. Or maybe they are just players like you suspect and in that case you're better off.
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I am so sick of al the stupid, fake...relationship involved, communication deficient [mod cut] languagefrom the got damn internet. A [mod cut] language saturday night and was stood up 3 times tonight. This is how it is, and why I havent found any type of lasting relationship in the 9 months I've been on this online [mod cut] language since I moved to this crappy state!
The people who I do meet are either all about sex, or they are too [mod cut] language controlling. They get upset and drop you the moment the sense someone is coming onto you at a club or pub and get super jealous. dating from the internet dont take anyone seriously. Its always the next person, and the next person and they dont even attempt to try to make anything happen even with someone they know can go into any bar and get a man with the snap of a finger. Guess you internet men are [mod cut] language scary little catsThese people are so stupid Im done!Im sorry if I am coming off too mean, I just needed to vent, and need some advice please thankyou all. Girls help me out here....
Ok, here's some advice from an old broad who has been married 3 times; not one of them coming from the internet. When you first went on the internet and got involved in online dating you left youself wide open to meet a wide variety of strange people. I just recently had this same issue with my niece and her using the online dating crap. The internet is a huge playgound for every werido on the face of this earth and you run the risk of running into many of them once you put your picture and stats online. You take that chance so if you follow through with meeting someone, you get pretty much what you have left yourself wide open for. Think about it. What better way for a guy or a girl to find someone to sleep with? Why should a guy go out and take the time to meet someone the old fashioned way when the internet is full of women looking to date someone? You go from meeting a stranger to being his FWB and if you have read my posts you know how I feel about this dumb FWB thing.
In my nieces case, she joined a couple of online dating places. Every guy she met would take her out a few times, she would sleep with them and suddenly they would either stop calling her or decide they wanted to be FWBs. I could NOT get it through her head that these dating sites were no more than huge candy stores for some of these guys....free for the taking.
So, now that you have learned your lesson with this crap....may I suggest several ways to meet guys? Try starting a conversation with a guy in a store who appears to be shopping for himself. You can especially tell by looking in a guys shopping cart while he is in the grocery store. Bachelors buy a lot of convenience foods....sorry guys but you do!! If you are in line at a post office, bank or fast food place and see a guy...smile and talk to him. Go to a local park for a walk and if you see a guy walking or jogging, say hello then go back a few days in a row and see if he is again there. Check out the UPS guys, Fed Ex guys..they are usually strong and good looking. Talk to the mechanics who work on your car, the waiters in restaurants...talk in person not online.
By the way, my niece is dating a FedEx guy. While she was busy online getting FWB'd do death, this FedEx guy was too shy to ask her out. He finally got up the nerve and they are now in a serious relationship and I have never seen her happier!
Good luck with all this and stay off the online dating sites...I think they could be potentially dangerous at some point!!
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Reason: cleaning up language in quote...
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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One or two, maybe even three bad relationship experiences are just part of life--perhaps the process of elimination--maybe you can even blame it on the other person. But if you're having them every time you turn around, maybe it's time to start looking at yourself.
They get upset and drop you the moment the sense someone is coming onto you at a club or pub and get super jealous. dating from the internet dont take anyone seriously.
Im sorry if I am coming off too mean, I just needed to vent, and need some advice please thank you all. Girls help me out here....
I'm thinking this is your problem right here. If someone is coming on to you, and you are on a date or waiting for a date, you tell them "I'm not available" quickly. If I were meeting someone for the first time and they were flirting with other people, I would bounce without a word.
This has nothing to do with jealousy, it's about respect. You complain about them looking for next, next, next but don't you think they think that about a person who's allowing others to flirt with her when they are just meeting?
ok...let me give you all an example of what happened tonight.
First, me and a guy plan to meet at a bar tonight. He wouldnt asnwer my call when I phoned him but would with text. Then, after 30 minutes he tells me that he would like to bring his girlfriend to the bar with him. Then after that I dont hear from him.
I don't know why you are planning to meet someone who has made it clear that he doesn't want to talk to you. Are you really surprised he didn't show? Esp since he asking to bring someone with him?
Second, met a guy who I previously met a few times earlier this year. He accuses me of not responding back to his messages (which I clearly did) a couple of months ago. Then when asked to meet up he tells me he doesnt want to. Then...I jokingly ask why hes online if he doesnt want to meet and this [mod cut] language says hes just bored not looking for sex. I tell the [mod cut] language...well who the [mod cut] languagesaid anything about looking for sex? It was just about meeting up.
He made it clear he was playing games when he accused you of not responding to his messages when you clearly had. Usually when someone says they want to "meet-up" they are talking about casual sex.
Like I said, internet men are STUPID! Its just a big playing field of bored, involved, horny men who need to call escorts. And whats funny is...over the years I have had relationships with men who I initially messaged online that didnt respond to my message online but we coincidentally met in person and they pursued me! Thats living proof people dont take it seriously. There are a select few who is worth it, but the majority of them only frustrate me.
It's obvious that internet dating isn't working for you. Like PTC said, after having the same thing happen more than once, you might want to look at your behavior for the answer of why things turn out the way you don't want them to.
Ok, here's some advice from an old broad who has been married 3 times; not one of them coming from the internet. When you first went on the internet and got involved in online dating you left youself wide open to meet a wide variety of strange people. I just recently had this same issue with my niece and her using the online dating crap. The internet is a huge playgound for every werido on the face of this earth and you run the risk of running into many of them once you put your picture and stats online. You take that chance so if you follow through with meeting someone, you get pretty much what you have left yourself wide open for. Think about it. What better way for a guy or a girl to find someone to sleep with? Why should a guy go out and take the time to meet someone the old fashioned way when the internet is full of women looking to date someone? You go from meeting a stranger to being his FWB and if you have read my posts you know how I feel about this dumb FWB thing.
In my nieces case, she joined a couple of online dating places. Every guy she met would take her out a few times, she would sleep with them and suddenly they would either stop calling her or decide they wanted to be FWBs. I could NOT get it through her head that these dating sites were no more than huge candy stores for some of these guys....free for the taking.
So, now that you have learned your lesson with this crap....may I suggest several ways to meet guys? Try starting a conversation with a guy in a store who appears to be shopping for himself. You can especially tell by looking in a guys shopping cart while he is in the grocery store. Bachelors buy a lot of convenience foods....sorry guys but you do!! If you are in line at a post office, bank or fast food place and see a guy...smile and talk to him. Go to a local park for a walk and if you see a guy walking or jogging, say hello then go back a few days in a row and see if he is again there. Check out the UPS guys, Fed Ex guys..they are usually strong and good looking. Talk to the mechanics who work on your car, the waiters in restaurants...talk in person not online.
By the way, my niece is dating a FedEx guy. While she was busy online getting FWB'd do death, this FedEx guy was too shy to ask her out. He finally got up the nerve and they are now in a serious relationship and I have never seen her happier!
Good luck with all this and stay off the online dating sites...I think they could be potentially dangerous at some point!!
I hate to say this...but honestly...no girl with a good job and a college education is going to want to date a ups guy or a mechanic.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I hate to say this...but honestly...no girl with a good job and a college education is going to want to date a ups guy or a mechanic.
Uh oh. I think I have to retract a former statement I made in another post. I was wrong--this has got to be the dumbest post I've seen here.
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