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Recently I have acted as a mentor to some people I have met in the various classes I teach. I tell them I work as a HR Manager and Recruiter for a large company in the Washington DC area. (I teach classes in the evening). Many people attempt to be friend me and want all kind of help and advice. I use to feel like I did a good job at screening out people who acted all friendly and nice because they felt they could use you vs people that were just nice people who maybe could be possible friends.
Recently though I have been burned by people who I have referred for employment and helped with their resumes. Once I served my purpose they dumped me and would not return my emails or phone calls. I had thought we were possible friends. Guess not.
Have you experienced people who used you or acted nice during a time you had some power or influence and got dumped once you served your purpose?
People do that all the time. I've just come to accept it as human nature. If the person shows a lot of potential to contribute something positive to my field, then I help out. I neither expect nor want friendship out of it.
Maybe friends is not a good work, but stay friendly
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Originally Posted by Eresh
People do that all the time. I've just come to accept it as human nature. If the person shows a lot of potential to contribute something positive to my field, then I help out. I neither expect nor want friendship out of it.
I agree that maybe I could not expect the people to be my friends after class or mentoring sessions to help with their resume and job search, but you would think that they could stay friendly after the task was done.
Most of the people who have worked for me (I am a manager) stay friendly after we stop working together but I can think of a few that I thought had a nice relationship with at work who turned sour after they left the company. (I guess they did not want a professional reference) When we worked together we spent a lot of time talking and enjoying each others company, but once they left they were cold and aloof when we ran into each other.
Yes, I have. When I was a journalist, I'd get invited to all sorts of cool parties given by the movers and shakers. After I left the biz, the invitations ceased. Oh, well!
Quite often, once I progressed in my career I started getting invited to social functions I had not been privy to in the past. Its surprising how people treat you if they think you have money or can help them professionally...or personally for that matter.
Have you experienced people who used you or acted nice during a time you had some power or influence and got dumped once you served your purpose?
Surely so! Power, influence - it's called BOOBS.
Nuff' said.
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Maybe friends is not a good work, but stay friendly
I guess that's one of the benefits of not being important.
