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The OP's confused and is seeking to hide himself behind a lame excuse.
TEN YEARS is a long time, bro. Did you find someone more curvaceous and alluring back in the homeland?
Ten year plans don't work. They say five year plans don't work either. When I was 20, I made astronomical objectives for 30, one of them being conquering the world
It clearly did not happen.
I'm gonnabe 30 in a year And I have a new set of astronomical objectives for 35 which will dwarf those of ten years ago.
But one of my married ex-bosses (this guy is an exec, he gets his ride in a dark lincoln) once told me that all 5 yr, 10 yr plans go boring when you marry the babe of your life and see your first son or daughter. You see life from a whole new frame and your prime objective is fatherhood and see the little one grow up, great and successful.
Considering that, your 10 year plan is probably farcical right now.
Hey, it's nice to see so many different opinions posted here. Unfortunately, some have pegged me as the guy who took advantage of a good woman. I will address that POV briefly.
The thought of an enduring relationship with Anne had been on the table for much time. Given that neither of us wants to remain in SoCal, we had discussed alternate locations within the USA. But our realities were different and we both understood this. After all, I'm much closer to the retirement "finish line" than she is.
The turning point came when I went on holidays to my homeland. And no, I did not meet someone more curvaceous than Anne. However, I did find several friends and family members whom I was happy to see and whom were sincerely joyous to see me. My conclusion..."it's time to start making a homebound U-turn." And again, that place is no place for Anne for a gamut of reasons. The location of this place is completely immaterial. Let it suffice to know that Anne was willing to visit my homeland only one third of the year.
Bottom line...I am satisfied with my decision and I am convinced that the right thing was done. In due time Anne will be also realize this was best for her also.
My questions are the same I posed at the begging of this thread....
- Why would any woman want to carry on with a relationship which will inevitably end some day?
- Doesn't she understand that I've chosen to end our relationship for her own good?
Cast me as you wish. I have done what is right for me, and for a great woman whom will eternally be a part of me.
Also, one, five, and ten year plans help keep focus. I've lived life by demarcations. Not to say that all plans will be accomplished as planned. But, I'd much rather know that "I had a plan which failed" than "I failed to have a plan!"
Lastly...the USA is the greatest nation on Earth, and we should all be proud of being active participants in the contemporary throws of this country's history. However, be it ever so humble, so third-world, so "lagging behind", for some of us, nothing can change our love for the country we left behind decades ago. Our hearts are from whence they came from, and there must they return someday.
It's getting to be time for me to start making a homebound U-turn. I miss it. And I will someday miss this great land called...The United States of America.
- Why would any woman want to carry on with a relationship which will inevitably end some day?
- Doesn't she understand that I've chosen to end our relationship for her own good?
- Why would any woman want to carry on with a relationship which will inevitably end some day?
You need to ask her this. Only she knows her reasons.
- Doesn't she understand that I've chosen to end our relationship for her own good?
It sounds like she does. You say she sounds resigned. But you have to understand that she has made a choice for herself. You cannot save her, if she doesnt want you to save her. So quit trying.
- Why would any woman want to carry on with a relationship which will inevitably end some day?
You need to ask her this. Only she knows her reasons.
- Doesn't she understand that I've chosen to end our relationship for her own good?
It sounds like she does. You say she sounds resigned. But you have to understand that she has made a choice for herself. You cannot save her, if she doesnt want you to save her. So quit trying.
It's been one exact week today since I heard from Anne. I do miss her. I know she misses me too. But it is better that I keep my distance. As you say, she has made her choice.
It's been one exact week today since I heard from Anne. I do miss her. I know she misses me too. But it is better that I keep my distance. As you say, she has made her choice.
It's August 19th. Anne and I have seen each other sporadically over the past two weeks. Our passion is not only there...it has definitely intensified.
I missed her. She missed me. We missed our day-to-day conversations. She missed the way I easily made her laugh. I missed her nerdy librarian personality and looks, glasses and all. We missed our heartfelt embraces. Heck, we even missed the looks we'd get when we ventured out in public..and on and on.
It's August 19th. Anne and I have seen each other sporadically over the past two weeks. Our passion is not only there...it has definitely intensified.
I missed her. She missed me. We missed our day-to-day conversations. She missed the way I easily made her laugh. I missed her nerdy librarian personality and looks, glasses and all. We missed our heartfelt embraces. Heck, we even missed the looks we'd get when we ventured out in public..and on and on.
What do they call this???
I call it "reality" - the one you didn't want to see
Choosing country over love?? I'd NEVER do it, not if it's true love.
All those people who were so "sincerely glad" to see you at the holidays - I suppose you can really count on them to be there for you till the end of your days, right?? Sure. They'll be happy to wipe your ass in the nursing home when you're too old, feeble and alone in the world to do it for yourself. After all, who needs a loyal loving partner when you've got people sincerely glad you are just "there" sharing their love of country
- Why would any woman want to carry on with a relationship which will inevitably end some day?
- Doesn't she understand that I've chosen to end our relationship for her own good?
Cast me as you wish. I have done what is right for me, and for a great woman whom will eternally be a part of me.
God bless you all!
Thank you friends.
Ummmm, you sound like a con artist. You and she aren't in a relationship so no need to use that misleading term. The reason she wants to stay in what she thinks is a relationship with you is that you are a liar. Had you told her you used her sexy body for two years and now you're ready to dump it she wouldn't want to stay in this fictional relationship. If you wanted her to move on you would have told her the truth without the laughable patronizing Harlequin Romance garbage you're spewing here. So that's the hook you've been wanting us to point out to you. With any luck she'll move on and dismiss your oily memory.
It's August 19th. Anne and I have seen each other sporadically over the past two weeks. Our passion is not only there...it has definitely intensified.
I missed her. She missed me. We missed our day-to-day conversations. She missed the way I easily made her laugh. I missed her nerdy librarian personality and looks, glasses and all. We missed our heartfelt embraces. Heck, we even missed the looks we'd get when we ventured out in public..and on and on.
What do they call this???
Sounds like maybe you do miss her. But I still don't think it qualifies as love. If it were love, you would know from the get-go. It also sounds like you are lonely. Its normal. It shall pass.
She would probably want to, he was the one who said it wouldn't work for her to do so. I'm guessing he's talking about Iraq or some other muslim country.
I think OP is from Puerto Rico. I don't know why he thinks his Irish lass wouldn't be able to adapt to there......Americans and other non-Latins live there and thrive, why wouldn't she? I think there is something else involved.
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