Once a player, always a player? (marry, girl, love, child)

[Woof Woof Woof!]

Originally Posted by eskercurve

It definitely varies. I used to date a lot of women and sleep around, but after I started dating the woman who would become my wife I started not doing that.

See, that's what a mean. If a man finds the right woman, she will give him a sense of direction and purpose in his life.

[WyoNewk]

Not always.

[Kenneth70]

By the time my dad was 40 he was a veteran player, having been married 3 or 4 times, with girlfriends inside and outside marriage.
I am approaching 40 and have never been intimate. I'm glad I haven't followed his example; I was raised by my mother from age 10 onward and she was very different from him in this aspect. He completely severed ties with me by the time I was 12. You could say he was a bad example.

[e.ortega]

Originally Posted by mango tango

Do you think that guys who like to have as many girls as possible and can never stick to one will ever grow out of this?

Nope..

You said it best once a player always a player like once a cheater always a cheater JERKS!!!!!

[Kenneth70]

Originally Posted by e.ortega

Nope..

You said it best once a player always a player like once a cheater always a cheater JERKS!!!!!

Behind every bad man is a bad mother.

[picklejuice]

Originally Posted by Kenneth70

Behind every bad man is a bad mother.

Yes, that could be part of this type of individual's problem

Throw in the extra cheating father, or alcoholic...and...*BINGO*

[andreaspercheron]

Jason28 is right, it's not gender specific, I think women just as much as men can be "players" (although I don't like that term). You know, when you have game, you have game and it's good all the time - at some point, I do believe some people get over themselves and realize that one partner long term beats the alternative.

[dragonfly0428]

Originally Posted by LaoTzuMindFu

Of course. Its called growing up. I used to date a lot of women. I was always upfront and honest with them that I was not looking for a long term relationship or even to be committed to one person. I essentially just enjoyed being single and being able to have and do what I want with whoever I wanted and when I wanted.

Once I got married it all changed. But I place great value on my marriage vows. Some guys, I think you will know who they are, will not and possibly still try to cheat. You just have to be smart about the character and quality of guys you choose to be with thats all.

And of course, some guys never grow up. Married or not, some guys are just not cut out for monogamy. I learned that the hard way.

Can they change? Sure, but remember ALWAYS - actions speak volumes over words. Never trust blindly.

[thatguy1]

Originally Posted by mango tango

Do you think that guys who like to have as many girls as possible and can never stick to one will ever grow out of this?

Of course, who has the energy to sustain that kind of stress level.

[miu]

A player might stop being a player for the right woman. But she as to really be a female that stands out from the rest, a woman worth keeping, a trophy that he doesn't want to lose. So having extraordinary good looks, or being rich would do it... maybe.