Is this Internet Cheating? (marriage, women, love, husband)
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I recently found that my fiance has been writing to several other women over the internet and I found the e-mails. They are all very suggestive and sexual and he talks to them about things that he and I have shared. He cannot understand why I am upset. I told him I have given him everything one woman can give a man, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, etc....and I don't know what else to do. I told him I didn't feel I was enough, and he SWEARS over and over again that I am enough woman for him, yet he has this need to write these woman and discuss all this. They have even sent him photos of themselves and he kept them until recently, so he says. He says he doesn't feel like it is cheating at all since there is no physical contact and this is all just e-mail bull. I consider it every-bit cheating, especially when he is telling a woman what he would do to her if he was with her.....which what is worse, is that it is all the same stuff he says to me when we are together physically. What are your thoughts?
I recently found that my fiance has been writing to several other women over the internet and I found the e-mails. They are all very suggestive and sexual and he talks to them about things that he and I have shared. He cannot understand why I am upset. I told him I have given him everything one woman can give a man, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, etc....and I don't know what else to do. I told him I didn't feel I was enough, and he SWEARS over and over again that I am enough woman for him, yet he has this need to write these woman and discuss all this. They have even sent him photos of themselves and he kept them until recently, so he says. He says he doesn't feel like it is cheating at all since there is no physical contact and this is all just e-mail bull. I consider it every-bit cheating, especially when he is telling a woman what he would do to her if he was with her.....which what is worse, is that it is all the same stuff he says to me when we are together physically. What are your thoughts?
Warning Warning Warning
You are engaged to this guy, he shouldn't be sharing confidential things with another lady like that. I agree with you, it's cheating. Love is more than physical, it's the whole ball of wax. You need to gut-check this right now, and if he doesn't change you need to cut your losses and find someone who you can trust and can be content with you alone.
Suggest a seperation, at least until he's done sewing his oats and grows up some more. He needs to know that marriage isn't just playing house. It's in the heart, and is an unrelenting dedication more than anything.
When you're with the right person, simply don't need the other stuff :>)
Oh yes, emotional affairs (without physical contact) is cheating. Thank you, internet. If he's hooked, but denies it, I'd RUN. It will save you alot of pain and suffering. Trust me ..... I've been there.
If you don't have trust your relationship is doomed. I'm sorry but if it were me, I would never be able to trust him after that. It might not be physically cheating, but it is emotionally and mentally cheating. I would also be physically turned off if the person I was having an intimate relationship with was talking to other women about the same thing. He might only be doing it to boost his ego or for attention but it's asking for trouble. He might think it's innocent but if he continued and one of these women said, let's meet.....maybe he would say no but maybe not.
IMO it's deceitful, sneaky and disrespectful to you as his fiance.
I recently found that my fiance has been writing to several other women over the internet and I found the e-mails. They are all very suggestive and sexual and he talks to them about things that he and I have shared. He cannot understand why I am upset. I told him I have given him everything one woman can give a man, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, etc....and I don't know what else to do. I told him I didn't feel I was enough, and he SWEARS over and over again that I am enough woman for him, yet he has this need to write these woman and discuss all this. They have even sent him photos of themselves and he kept them until recently, so he says. He says he doesn't feel like it is cheating at all since there is no physical contact and this is all just e-mail bull. I consider it every-bit cheating, especially when he is telling a woman what he would do to her if he was with her.....which what is worse, is that it is all the same stuff he says to me when we are together physically. What are your thoughts?
I would consider it cheating. Heres a thought for you: my husband and I met on the internet the 22nd of this month will be seven years of marriage. Some relationships start online.
For me, that is a Deal Breaker! You are worth more than that! There is someone out there that will love you, respect you, and appreciate you! Let him know that u have more worth than to put up with that! He is not only playing with your feelings, but playing with your integrity as a woman.
What a low life. Sorry...it just really pisses me off when someone like that takes advantage of a lady, and a guy like me would darn near give an arm or leg to be with a lady of your description. If you ask me...I'd have him moved out by the end of the day...or pack your own bags. He's obviously a waste of time let alone untrustworthy. I despise cheaters.
I basically agree that it is cheating - for male or female.
I would suggest, however, that there is room for forgiveness based on some lightweight factors like, how long has he been using the internet? How long has he been doing this sort of thing?
Putting your foot down might work - forcing him to read this thread might work.
Many folks don't think of the Net as the real world - until they are forced to see it that way.
Good Luck
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