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i hope this doesnt get moved because you guys really have good advice and i enjoy hearing about your personal experiences on all different things.
i have a serious problem with relinquishing control. i have actually seen psychologists about this, and i usually get deep breathing techniques and little exercises like that. doesnt work for me. it calms me down physically, not not emotionally. i HATE surprises and i try to plan, plan, plan. its funny because my friends see me as being mellow and very type b, but i consider myself very type a.
any tips to "loosen up"?
i feel like a fraud in a sense because i am am fine with relinquishing control in my career and actually like ambiguity, however in my personal life I HATE IT!!!
how could this connect to relationships? i am not spontaneous at all. i admire spontaneous people so much. they seem to have more fun in life. i am the kind of person who needs to get to the movies ultra early in order to make sure the line to get the tickets isnt long, get my popcorn and soda, go to the bathroom, and get good seats. my friends and nearly everyone i know, looks at me like i am insane!!!
It's a trust thing, you know? You have to trust others and the world. It's just no fun to be the kind of person you're being right now. Life never functions according to plan, so why worry to the extent you do?
i hope this doesnt get moved because you guys really have good advice and i enjoy hearing about your personal experiences on all different things.
i have a serious problem with relinquishing control. i have actually seen psychologists about this, and i usually get deep breathing techniques and little exercises like that. doesnt work for me. it calms me down physically, not not emotionally. i HATE surprises and i try to plan, plan, plan. its funny because my friends see me as being mellow and very type b, but i consider myself very type a.
any tips to "loosen up"?
i feel like a fraud in a sense because i am am fine with relinquishing control in my career and actually like ambiguity, however in my personal life I HATE IT!!!
how could this connect to relationships? i am not spontaneous at all. i admire spontaneous people so much. they seem to have more fun in life. i am the kind of person who needs to get to the movies ultra early in order to make sure the line to get the tickets isnt long, get my popcorn and soda, go to the bathroom, and get good seats. my friends and nearly everyone i know, looks at me like i am insane!!!
It's a trust thing, you know? You have to trust others and the world. It's just no fun to be the kind of person you're being right now. Life never functions according to plan, so why worry to the extent you do?
i dont know why i do it, thats why i need advice lol.
its really strange. i travel by myself and have an adventurous side (hitchhike, go without arranging a hostel etc), but the second i come back home, i always feel i need to go back to plans and having a set routine.
i dont know why i do it, thats why i need advice lol.
its really strange. i travel by myself and have an adventurous side (hitchhike, go without arranging a hostel etc), but the second i come back home, i always feel i need to go back to plans and having a set routine.
Well, start with the small things. For example, assume that the movie theater won't be so crowded that you can't find a seat.
i dont know why i do it, thats why i need advice lol.
its really strange. i travel by myself and have an adventurous side (hitchhike, go without arranging a hostel etc), but the second i come back home, i always feel i need to go back to plans and having a set routine.
Maybe you have no self value? Any pretty young lady I know would never consider hitchhiking and staying in "hostels". No matter how "crunchy" or trendy people make it sound.
I hope this doesnt get moved because you guys really have good advice and I enjoy hearing about your personal experiences on all different things.
I have a serious problem with relinquishing control. I have actually seen psychologists about this, and I usually get deep breathing techniques and little exercises like that. doesnt work for me. it calms me down physically, not not emotionally. I HATE surprises and I try to plan, plan, plan. its funny because my friends see me as being mellow and very type b, but I consider myself very type a.
any tips to "loosen up"?
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Maybe you have no self value? Any pretty young lady I know would never consider hitchhiking and staying in "hostels". No matter how "crunchy" or trendy people make it sound.
i love staying in hostels. i have met so many people and have great memories from staying there. i still stay in them. i wouldnt trade those days for anything, even staying in a 4 seasons.
my parents can never know i have hitchhiked before, especially that i did it all the time in israel. the only place i probably wouldnt hitchhike is in the u.s. and probably australia.
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