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I think going after some hot guy or starting an affair would be cheating , but com'on, whats a little "sympathy sex" from an old friend who understands gona hurt? Like someone who you can be seem with and not arrouse suspicion. (hint hint OP)
Eh, dunno, can I be completely honest: the OP's husband DESERVES to be cheated on. That's right. I said it. Most likely, he is cheating too, and if not, he has problems as a man (if you know what I mean) and he is not communicating it to her. He is rejecting her as a woman, that must feel awful.
However, with the fear of sounding like a goodie 2 shoes, I'll say that her husband is not worthy of the OP losing her intergrity, her decency as a human being. She WILL get bad karma first of all, what goes around comes around. Secondly, who knows, maybe down the road her consious will strike up and she will feel a burden of guilt that she will have to live with for the rest of her life.
The right thing to do is to change the situation without compromising herself as a person, as a woman.
Eh, dunno, can I be completely honest: the OP's husband DESERVES to be cheated on. That's right. I said it. Most likely, he is cheating too, and if not, he has problems as a man (if you know what I mean) and he is not communicating it to her. He is rejecting her as a woman, that must feel awful.
However, with the fear of sounding like a goodie 2 shoes, I'll say that her husband is not worthy of the OP losing her intergrity, her decency as a human being. She WILL get bad karma first of all, what goes around comes around. Secondly, who knows, maybe down the road her consious will strike up and she will feel a burden of guilt that she will have to live with for the rest of her life.
The right thing to do is to change the situation without compromising herself as a person, as a woman.
Its a shame fulfilling your needs has to make you a bad person, sometimes when I read anthropology and learn how tribal people view sex , I think sex is a curse for modern Judeo -christian society .
Its a shame fulfilling your needs has to make you a bad person, sometimes when I read anthropology and learn how tribal people view sex , I think sex is a curse for modern Judeo -christian society .
Believe me. I know. You have no idea.
It's not just fulfilling the needs, it's about lying and deceiving.
Perhaps she needs to suggest an open marriage to her husband. Then it's fulfilling the needs without having the need to lie and hide.
Eh, dunno, can I be completely honest: the OP's husband DESERVES to be cheated on. That's right. I said it. Most likely, he is cheating too, and if not, he has problems as a man (if you know what I mean) and he is not communicating it to her. He is rejecting her as a woman, that must feel awful.
However, with the fear of sounding like a goodie 2 shoes, I'll say that her husband is not worthy of the OP losing her intergrity, her decency as a human being. She WILL get bad karma first of all, what goes around comes around. Secondly, who knows, maybe down the road her consious will strike up and she will feel a burden of guilt that she will have to live with for the rest of her life.
The right thing to do is to change the situation without compromising herself as a person, as a woman.
Totally right. My wife had a friend who married a guy who loved women. Every one but my wife friends know he was sleeping with other women. Then one day when my wife and her went shopping she says tells her that her husband enjoyed looking at her breasts and ass. My wife was shocked at her comment. Her friend was not very bright and was trying to get my wife in bed for a threesome with her husband. In fact it was her husband who talked her into it asking. She was not having sex with her husband but he wanted my wife to be his sex toy. My wife broke off their friendship and we never saw the again. I wanted to confront him but I let it go
To this day I will never know why he did not find his wife sexy and attractive. She was very pretty and had a figure most guys would love to have in bed. She just did not have any common sense and self respect. Well they are long in the past now.
Look, if you're going to sleep around on hubby, then at least tell him your intentions. It's not fair for him to withhold affection, but sneaking around on him is even worse.
Look, if you're going to sleep around on hubby, then at least tell him your intentions. It's not fair for him to withhold affection, but sneaking around on him is even worse.
That's what I'm saying, maybe she needs to suggest an open marriage, explain that she is not getting her needs met at all, suggesting of a change first and then see if he would be okay with her intentions. Who knows, maybe he will be happy with the arrangement.
If you were married and have not had sex in a year.If your car needed servicing you would take it to a mechanic.
Well the same goes for me.My "motor" needs servicing and I have my eyes set on a guy at work. My husband has zero interest in sex. Usually we are arguing towards bedtime and he says "he can't get turned on when we fight". Well if he shut his big fat mouth, we wouldn't fight.
I don't think cars have a conscience do they? I mean when you get married you take vows and if you are feeling like you cannot keep those vows; perhaps it is time to separate or seek marriage counseling. A sure fire way to lose your husband and ruin your marriage is to cheat with this guy at work. Do what you want but understand that cheating has consequences.
Have you talked to your husband about why he doesn't want to have sex with you? Have you asked him if he might have an interest in someone else? Maybe the two of you should TALK it out and find out what is going on between you. If the arguments are starting before bedtime then both of you are anxious about sleeping with each other but for different reasons..NO???
Not money for a divorce, money to live on. Of course I could go live in an apartment, give up the house and vacations and shopping and all the other stuff single moms can't afford. OR......I can $crew my brains out with the guy at work and play the happy homemaker.
I don't think this is right, you ever talk to him about getting on Viagra? How about putting him on some type of testosterone booster to get his libido up.
If you love him, you should not do this, at least if you really love him and want to be with him.
Sounds like you need a sugar daddy, but one that has a sex drive. I say work on it with you hubby, and if not... then let him be, leave him and tell him why. So IMHO, I say "NO" to an affair.
If you were married and have not had sex in a year?
If your car needed servicing you would take it to a mechanic.
Well the same goes for me.
My "motor" needs servicing and I have my eyes set on a guy at work.
My husband has zero interest in sex. Usually we are arguing towards bedtime and he says "he can't get turned on when we fight". Well if he shut his big fat mouth, we wouldn't fight.
I'm proud of the fact that I've never cheated on anyone. I plan to keep it that way.
However - your situation might push me into cheating territory. I think it'd just be better to have a talk about divorce, see where that goes.
Or like others say, perhaps you should see how he likes an unorthodox marriage arrangement.
Last edited by le roi; 08-04-2009 at 02:34 PM..
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