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since i was a little kid, i never really was a touchy feely person. i hated getting hugs from family, and especially kisses from relatives. no i was never molested, and no i never had a creepy uncle. my mom always tried to kiss me, but i always turned away. my dad never tried to hug or kiss me unless i was going through something serious when he would kiss my head.
anyway, i feel too uncomfortable to kiss someone if i am just starting to see them. this sometimes could take 3 dates where i finally feel i can do it. if a guy goes in for the kill, does it seem like bs if i say i like him but im not comfortable kissing that early? is there a "better" way to say this?
To be honest with you, it depends on a man. I remember when I first met my husband there was absolutely nothing I could think of more then: boy, how much I want to kiss that man...
I also have had situations prior when I felt strange and uncomfortable, and it would take me few days to warm up.
I don't find it strange about you, everyone is different. Some people are not even into kissing at all, some people take a longer time to feel that comfort level to touch someone's lips.
In general though, if I was on a date with a man that I'm attracted to, I couldn't wait to kiss him, and I never purposefully waited until 2nd or 3rd date.
Kissing is such a personal thing, it is exchanging saliva and touching someone's tongue, you really need to feel in the mood, no need to force it.
I tend to agree... I did not grow up in a "touchy" family. I have always been kinda weird about people touching me, I don't like it. I have seen the "touchy feely" people, and if it works for them, that's fine, but I prefer to be hands off.
I'm the same way! once I'm in a relationship though, I like the touching, but not much in public. I get uncomfortable if men try to kiss me on the 1st date, but if they go for it..I kiss back, it really depends on how our time together goes, you know? same for you! just go with what you're comfortable with!
It's probably because Ashkenazim are odd to begin with...
But, no, there's not much you can do but what feels right for you, I think. Anybody worth pursuing will understand.
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